Couples With One ADHD Partner
Husband Addicted to Adderall?
I also posted this in the “smoking, drinking, substance abuse, and ADHD” group, but I wanted to come here as well.
Hello, I hope I am in the right place. I am the non-ADHD spouse. My husband and I have been together for 14+ years. I found out early on in our relationship that he was ADHD, but in my naivety I didn’t think it was an issue. He took medication after all. Done deal.
Fast forward a bit and he tells me that he had a history of abusing Ritalin. He had insurance through both of his divorced parents and would fill prescriptions under each plan. He’d still run out and would doctor-shop to get more scripts. I was concerned, but believed him when he said he’d had help and was not doing that any longer.
He went off meds at some point, but after suffering from severe agoraphobia, he started treatment with a new doctor and started trying new meds under doctor supervision. I know he started Ritalin again, and Strattera, and now he’s on Adderall.
I know he abuses it: he has asked me to help monitor his use by keeping the bottle in a safe and only giving him his daily allotment. I am happy to do this because I want to help him. At times he asks for extra capsules. I give them to him. I always question his reasoning for it, but ultimately it’s not my decision to keep him from his prescription. When he runs out early, it’s his own fault.
This morning I went into the safe to get his daily dose out, and the bottle was considerably lighter than I expected. I counted, and half the expected amount was there. A ball immediately formed in the pit of my stomach; he must have taken it. I confronted him, asking why the bottle was lighter. He stated he had taken some to “test” himself to see if he was ready to manage his medicine on his own. I WANT to trust him. I don’t know if I can. (He had asked that I let him in the safe this week for some documents. Again, I WANT to trust, so I did let him…I am questioning my own judgement.)
My question is, when does medication abuse turn to addiction? I think that’s where he’s at. I don’t know what to do. He always has a believable reason for his actions. I don’t come from an addict-background. I think my instincts are on, but what if they’re not? What do I do?
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