ADHD at School
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Well we had my son’s IEP meeting yesterday and I am not too happy. He is in special ed, a small classroom of 9 kids, 3rd grade. He is mainstreamed for Math and Science. His teacher has seemed to be very frustrated with him from soon after the start of school. She is certified in Learning Disabilities, a special ed teacher. She is nice, appropriate but I can see the frustration in her that he just doesnt stop “acting up”. My son is extremely smart academically. That is not the issue. It has always been a behaviorial issue. So, in the meeting basically they are recommending he go to a different teacher, one who is certified in Behavior Management and works with Emotionally Impaired kids…which is what my son is listed as, which qualified him for the IEP. I know he has a great deal of trouble controlling his emotions, from excitement to irriation and irritability. In the last 1.5 months he has improved markedly. Back in January he was having a large amount of problems, explosiveness, and being sent to the principal almost daily. I explained to them his meds were not right, (long story of Tenex not working like Intuniv and a newly diagnosed thyroid problem, and very very low cholesterol). I got this all fixed with his neurologist and PCP. I enrolled him in counseling again. He was 100 % better by April and this isnt just my opinion, I have wonderful daily behavior reports from all his teachers documenting his behavior on a daily basis. He has not been sent to principal once in this time.
The problem I have with this whole thing is this: the other teacher is in another school about 10 miles from our home. We live on an island outside a large metro area. my son goes to school less than 2 miles from our home (island is about 10 miles tip to tip). This other school is a whole other district. These are townships and share a special education consortium. Our district would provide bus service. My son has just now for the first time developed real friendships in his class. He is happy at school and loves it there. My husband and I refused to make a decision on this placement until we visit the program, which I will do this next week. My son can also go there for a day in the classroom and see how he likes it. They did tell us it is our legal right to refuse their recommendation and he can remain at his current school. The current teacher is telling us and everyone she doesnt “have the skills to help him”. The plan would be if he shows improvement over the next year he can return to his current school for 5th grade. I feel the “team” is ignoring his significant improvement. They feel he will also not having the coping skills for middle school if he doesnt get intense help now.
Please give me your input. I need to know if anyone has their kid in a program like this or not ? Does the benefit outweigh the trauma of a complete change for him ?
Thanks for reading this HUGE post !!
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