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Couples With One ADHD Partner

I am, is he?

Hello!  I am 27 and a mother of four.  I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was little, but was taken off medication when I was in 10th grade.  I just got back on about 2 years ago and all is going okay as long as my medications are kicked in.  My main question is:  I have been reading many articles on ADDitude’s website about when one person is ADHD and the other is not, but I am noticing many of the symptoms for the “undiagnosed” sound like my fiancé.  I would absolutely love some tips about how to handle him along with myself, especially when my meds go off about 7pm.  Thank you.


You should be able to get along with your spouse whether you are on medication or not, Im sure you didn’t mean it that way but I take things word for word.  Keep your eye on him and take notice to any adhd traits also look into bi-polar since they are sometimes mistaken for one another, but are not treated with the same medications.  Like look to see if he is manic, or not interesting in things, or cant finish things.  Manic=possible bi-polar, loss of interest=depression and or add/adhd, cant finish projects or his share of housework=lazy or add/adhd (I know I shouldn’t of said lazy, but I think Im lazy and its the adhd Im told hmmm) either way these are just examples. Good Luck and monitor him because if he needs medication himself it could be a huge benefit for your relationship that is if he believes in adhd.  Just rambling here trying to help a bit.

Posted by BexIssues on Dec 11, 2013 at 4:42am

Thank you very much for responding (and, yes, you read it correctly).  I have started taking notes, and will begin a discussion with him after a few weeks.

Posted by MaizeRageMammaB on Aug 23, 2014 at 8:12pm

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