Parents of ADHD Children
I feel like I'm ruining xmas for my kids
I have two older kids with ADHD. First, they are bored a few minutes after waking up on the first day of winter break. That exacerbates it all. But then they want to do Every Holiday Tradition Known To Man nearly every day. My spouse hates xmas and merely tolerates it for my sake. I used to love it, but I just can’t accommodate both kids and spouse. Especially the kids. I don’t want to make hot chocolate every day. I don’t want to go look at xmas lights every night. We can only make one gingerbread house, and that is usually rushed through and over in minutes, anyway. We can only decorate a single tree or house, which is also rushed. I don’t want to make crafts every other hour. And no matter what, both my kids always have comments about how “that’s it? That’s all we’re doing? Can’t we do more?” Which makes me feel both frustrated and guilty.
I feel as if I am not doing enough to make the holidays special for them, and in turn, it seems like all the magic has been drained out of it for me. I enjoy “slow and simple” and they want “all and now.” I’m sure a lot of this is guilt from always having to put on brakes through the year and always having to be the “no” monster. And I want the holidays to be special for them and different from the rest of the year, so I feel guilty when I can’t keep them in xmas awe the entire time. And guilt is making me want to do less and less every year, which makes the guilt worse when the kids are bummed that certain things aren’t decorated or created or whathaveyou.
I was wondering if other parents experience this and how they handle it?
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