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Anxiety and ADHD

I'm 14, anxious, diagnosed, parents won't treat


14, anxious,diagnosed add but no treatment
Posted by Theycallmeaddthatsnotmyname to Anxiety and ADHD on Nov 12, 2013 at 10:37pm

I don’t know what to do to help myself. I go to a ridiculously high acheiving school in the uk who have virtually no provision for students with ldd except telling me to “highlight things as it will help me remember them” my parents are both stressed people so telling them the true extent of how anxious i get would make things worse. My dad thinks keeping me of sugar would help but my mum refuses to help him as how can her “straight A” daughter have a learning disability. What do i do? Why would i be assesed as having add to a level that it seriously affects my relationships and school life yet NOTHING BE DONE ABOUT IT. I also don’t know how to tell my parents the anxiety of fulfilling deadlines and completing the 2-3 hour a night homework is slowly affecting my health as i find myself become more ocd about things. “Tap this 26 times” etc. sorry this may have been completely ridiculous but i am lost. What the hell do i do for myself?


First, I think it’s important to tell your parents how you are feeling. They won’t change their mind about treatment if you don’t show them there’s a reason to.

Second, confide in a guidance counselor at your school about how you are feeling at school. They should be able to give you some coping strategies, but could possibly help you reach out to your parents as well.

Hang in there and keep working at it!

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Nov 13, 2013 at 7:47pm

Hi Theycallmeaddthatdnotmyname, BTW I like that nick name, I have suffered from anxiety and ADD, inattentive type, since I was in kindergarten, without the benefit of a diagnosis, it was terrible, and I know what are you talking about. Now I have a diagnose for ADD and GAD (generalized anxiety disorder). I don’t want to take prescription pills, instead I addressed both conditions with natural solutions, like:
1.-Weekly therapy
2.-Attending to the local ADD association meetings.
3.-Daily exercise
4.-Diet, reducing sugary food, adding more protein, veggies and fruits.
5.-Supplements: Rhodiola rosea, brand name “Rosavin” from, or from, brand name ADAPT 232; B complex pills; Bio-Strath, is complimentary B vitamins.

God bless you my fellow ADD (and probably GAD as well)

Posted by Zatara on Nov 13, 2013 at 7:51pm

Great advice Zatara, I’m going to look into the Rhodiola rosea, Thank you so much for sharing

Posted by BexIssues on Nov 13, 2013 at 7:58pm

Great job for finding and reaching out to this group!

I agree that giving your parents a window into how you are feeling is very important.  Do you have a more open relationship with one parent than another?  I’d try him/her first.  Is there an intermediary you could use?  Another relative or close family friend?  Would your parents make an appointment for you with a therapist?  Perhaps he/she could be your intermediary.  There may be free or reduced cost mental health services in your area.

I have two kids, one, a girl 13 with add/anxiety and another a boy, 18, with add.  I depend on them to let me know when things are getting rough for them.  I can and do watch carefully for clues into how they are feeling, but the communicaiton between us is essential.

Also, I agree that daily exercise (any kind - basketball, volley ball, taekwando, running, walking, rollerblading, soccer, dog walking - anything at all really), eating lots of protein, meds, therapy, plenty of sleep, and a really consistent routine all work together to achieve the best results. 

Best of luck to you.  Again, great job for finding and reaching out to this group.  I can tell you are a real hard worker and very self motivated!!!!  smile

Posted by SJF04 on Nov 13, 2013 at 9:34pm

Doesn’t sound like adhd to me, it sounds like Anxiety, that needs to be addressed right away.  Your exceptionally smart, if your parents don’t want to acknowledge your anxiety then maybe you should look it up and see what types of foods can calm your anxiety.  You should never eat sugar or caffeine with adhd or anxiety.  Also make sure you get plenty of physical activity since your so young.  Trust me if you think medication for adhd will help, no doctors like to put anyone on medication without treating the anxiety or whatever else may be there first.  Treating add/adhd is always last on their list of treatments.  So try to fix the anxiety first. 

Maybe you should ask your parents to read this thread so they can see others advice or ask for advice themselves.  Great group of people and coaches on here everyday.

Posted by BexIssues on Nov 14, 2013 at 12:10am

Ditto the comment about treating anxiety first. Do some research and share with your parents. Anxiety causes excess adrenalin which is not good for you especially if you have GAD. Good luck!

Posted by Counting Blessings on Nov 14, 2013 at 2:19am

I have anxiety and ADHD.  I think the anxiety stems partly from having ADHD.  I used to worry about all of the things that I was missing each day because of a lack of focus. 

Treating my anxiety with medication actually improved the symptoms of ADHD for me.  When you are calm, it is easier to pay attention.  Like you, I was very bright and had reasonably good grades in school.  What your parents don’t know is that you could be doing just as well (or better) with much less effort if you had proper treatment for ADHD. 

Also, highlighting is generally an ineffective way to learn.  You might try taking the large concepts and distilling them into an outline and then distilling the outlines into index cards.  Also, try using different colored notebooks and folders for each subject (i.e. a red notebook and folder for Math, blue for English).  I even used notebooks that had different colors of paper for each subject so that I could always quickly gather my work into the proper categories. 

There are also books that you could read about dealing with ADHD without medications.  I have found some of those to be helpful.  Don’t give up and know that you are not alone in dealing with this issue.  But, it is a disorder and your parents should be able to recognize that like any other disorder proper treatment is key.

Posted by MiraRoseFunk on Nov 17, 2013 at 5:30am

Hello to all of you, thanks so much for the responses! I never ever ever touch caffeine as it makes me go hyper and i think staying away from sugar is a really good idea which i will try.I also do not want to be put on ritalin style drugs and will start to take vitamin supplements daily. For me it does seem as if the disorganization of my life appears to cause my anxiety. However others around me, when i attempted to broach the subject appeared to be more worried about the anxiety it causes them…:I needless to say i was not impressed. People tend to back away from other’s issues and realising i was not alone has eased the barrage of self doubt so thank you all very much.

Posted by Theycallmeaddthatsnotmyname on Nov 19, 2013 at 4:01am

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