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In law mimicking childs hyper behavior

Every time my ADHD son visits grandma, she turns on her hyperness so then they are both bouncing off the walls.  It takes what seems like forever to get him calmed back down.  Is this something I should address with her?  He seems to be calm around me and dad, but a “wild child” after being with grandma.


That’s a tough one. She’s probably just having fun and using it as an excuse to act “young” again. However, getting your son riled up isn’t helping anyone. Maybe ask her to only engage with him in that manner for a short time (15 minutes?) so that you can get him calmed down again more easily.

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Posted by adhdmomma on Nov 29, 2013 at 9:22pm

Thanks Penny.

Posted by awall96 on Nov 30, 2013 at 2:25am

Maybe she’s not “mimicking.”  Grandmothers can have ADHD too.  My granddaughter got it from her father, and her father got it from me. And I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 50.  I’m sure we ALL drive my daughter-in-law nuts. But I would have given ANYTHING if my mother-in-law would have shown any interest in my son, much less actually play with him.

Posted by Tamabananarama on Dec 01, 2013 at 10:51am

True.  I am ADD myself and dad probably is too, just not diagnosed. 

Whenever we meet up with grandma, either at her home or in a public place, my son will yell “grandma” and jump up and down and she yells his name back and throws her hands in the air.  It’s out of control from there.

Posted by awall96 on Dec 01, 2013 at 7:03pm

I would maybe just ask that she be mindful of what she gives him to eat and drink. My children had sensitivities to corn syrup and Yellow #5. Food sensitivities can cause hyperness and irritability. You might also suggest a “wind-down” period before he’s scheduled to go home by possibly spending that last hour, 15 minutes, whatever works, by reading together, playing legos, or eating a healthy snack. Good luck!

Posted by Tamabananarama on Dec 03, 2013 at 5:26am

I agree with Tamabananarama, I’m add/adhd 47 year old Grammy with two grandsons 4 and 6, and wow do we get each other going but after a while I notice we’re too loud and jumpy so I get us playing video games or about an hour before mom and dad come to pick them up we lounge around on the sofas and watch a calm movie and have sliced apples or popcorn.  My grandsons don’t have adhd but they are crazy like all children are when hyped up and happy.  Thank God they don’t have adhd like me cuz I couldn’t imagine kids any faster than those two. lol Diet is key is raising calm intelligent children in this world of gluten and toxic foods

Posted by BexIssues on Dec 03, 2013 at 7:57am

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