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Just got let go!

This is the second time in my life I been let go from a job. I’m 38. My last job which I loved doing. I was what you call a vampire,blood sucker. I was good at it and felt like I was doing good in world. The only problem I had with the job is I was degraded many of times by other employees and management. I was at for nine years. This time I feel that i don’t want to get back on the horse again. Even tho I feel I was let go for sticking up for myself which I never ever do, in their minded I was wrong. The story goes like this. A new employee thought I was making up my own rules and complaining to management that I slow and asking for help to much in a busy ER. So one day she came to me and starting yell at me telling me I was wrong. So of course to defend myself for once I yelled back. I got fired she didn’t because she had less points than me. How do I find the strength to go on. When I know it’s same way everywhere. I’m at the point where I need to look in a career that I don’t have to work around other employees. Any suggestions?


I’m sorry this happened to you. The fact that you are out of work in it self could be hard. And then all the questions people suddenly have etc. 

Now if you don’t mind me commenting. I’m just wring my thoughts since I also have ADHD. I don’t know you soon not directing or judging anything directly at you.

On here only you, Honesly know how that went down.
It could be that you were right but the question is how you reacted? And how it looked to the public.
I know for my self, I my self more than once got someone at work so mad because I wasn’t going to take his bluff anymore. I didnt yell I just pressed hid buttons. He was the one that exploded and I was the one who was asked to apologize. So you see how things can get twisted. I did it only because I know how much I need a job.

I’m just asking, again, I’m not judging.
Do you find your self getting irritable a lot? I have this sometimes, if I feel people are trying to push jobs on me or delay things. I get so irritable you can’t imagine.

Don’t give up, you are young and I’m sure their is more then one thing you are good at.
Have you thought of working for lab that does house calls? So you don’t have to deal with so many people at once? Or maybe a doctors office?
I hope things work out for you.

Posted by caringman on Mar 08, 2014 at 1:34am

I agree that it might be worth considering a different setting in which to do the job. I would never survive a busy ER with my ADHD.  I don’t do well with multiple urgent demands on my concentration, no matter how well I know my stuff. Just picture a blood drive center where you have volunteer “subjects” who either have appointments or are in line instead of ever changing number of people with varying degrees of injury and multiple health care professionals with potentially competing goals. Maybe a hospital satellite blood draw lab located in a professional office building with one or two coworkers there at a time… It still could get very busy, but the urgency is more related to the frustration of the people not wanting to wait long instead of people possibly dying right there. I think your “I’m finished” attitude is not necessarily even related to your ADD, but could happen to anyone in a high volume, multiple competing priority high energy life and death job.  I’d try shifting the setting after a review of my own reaction mechanisms to see if I could identify my triggers to avoid escalation of conflict in the future.

Posted by Juggler on Mar 08, 2014 at 4:49am

I’m disabled so I got help finding my current job as a tech support person—working from home!  It gets lonesome sometimes but it sure beats all of the personality clashes I had when I worked at a regular physical location.  It’s a great way to earn a salary without having to deal with co-workers.

Posted by Missed That on Mar 08, 2014 at 4:55am

Sartre was right. Hell is other people. To answer your question though, you find the strength to go on in the fact that you really don’t have any choice.

In roughly 30 years I’ve been laid off, fired, or got out of Dodge just ahead of termination either 5 or 6 times. I’ve spent about 3 years in total unemployed. But when you’ve got a family to feed what are you going to do? There’s no option to quit.

Oh it sucks don’t get me wrong. And I am not looking forward to my next bout of unemployment. Not at my age. But over time it becomes normal. You structure your finances like a professional consultant meaning you plan for large gaps in employment. The guy next door has 3 months of expenses saved up? You need 12. Your resume is always up to date. Your email box is full of automated job feeds from various web sites. And everyone temp or consulting firm in town knows who you are.

There is one thing though that you know from bitter experience. There is no such thing as ‘job security’. Most people don’t know that.

Posted by ADDedValue62 on Mar 08, 2014 at 6:49am

Sorry this happened to you..I know of so many that working is just a day to day struggle including myseslf.  Some lady on another site had given me information on a writing job.  The owner runs 5 different sites and at times she needs writers.  I myself suck at it.  But I hung on to the link and believe I have posted it on another thread here also. She is suppose to be fair and you get a lot of help.  If anyone wants to check into it I will post the link.

Posted by Alanna on Mar 08, 2014 at 8:51pm

I have ADHD and I was recently laid off. I feel like I suck at everything. I like work generally but it is hard for me to deal with instructions apparently.  I think I’m crazy sometimes. Does everyone cry all the time and hate themselves? I think that when you have ADD people rag on you for it all the time. People put you down and you feel like a horrible person. I get nervous that I can’t handle simple things and then I can’t pay attention when someone is giving me directions. I anticipate myself screwing things up while my boss is giving me directions.I’m so afraid of making mistakes that I don’t listen well. I think half of it is just being afraid that I am such an idiot that I will screw everything up.  I work in construction, which is very competitive and very harsh. People laugh at me all the time. I’m 37, and I feel like I should be able to handle this crap by now. I want to find a new job because I want to give up but I’m afraid that I’ll suck at that too. Maybe I should go on ritalin again! I don’t want to be on hard drugs for the rest of my life. Amphetamines are not good for you, but then again not having an income must be worse!!

Posted by notorious on Mar 22, 2014 at 1:33am

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