Keeping Clean With ADD/ADHD: What Helps You?
Feel free to respond to the popular discussion below with any help or advice you would like to share.
Autumn Night: I have extreme procrastination issues with cleaning my house and my car. Dishes, bathrooms, vacuuming, etc….
Could someone give me a list of what you do each day or each week to keep things tidy? Not a long list, or I know I’ll freak out and get overwhelmed.
I tried FlyLady different times, but she sents waaaaaaaaay too many emails, and I get really overwhelmed.
Cyni: I know for me it needs to be written down in my calender. I get sidetracked very easily but if it is written down on a particular day I can remember to do it. Also I seem to let it get so bad that I do the perfectionist thing and focus way to much on say cleaning the bathroom. Maintenance is a tough one for me. I also know that my house will always be a bit dirtier and messier than my friends. But i’m more fun!
ADD RN: Well it takes me days to clean just one room I start with all the loose paper and shred; but truthfully I let my husband do it he cleans so much better he is organized something I have major problems with cleaning I get so distracted and frankly I hate loose paper so It just becomes a real mess rather wash clothes and fold etc things like that big easy to get done things. My desk right now looks like a disorganized mess Paper and books all on top of it.
Autumn Night: What really sucks about it is, I don’t have people over as much, or let the kids have friends over as much, because it’s so messy. I would like to get on an easy, low key, housecleaning schedule. I don’t understand how other moms do it, really. When I go to other people’s houses, they are neat and clean. I’d like a sort of easy formula of what to do to keep it from getting out of control.
Channy: It would be nice to wake up in the morning to a clean house, rather then fighting 5 and 3yr olds and a disaster house. I am still trying to figure out a schedule and a way to keep focused and work out what needs doing. The one thing I have found useful is whiteboards and cork boards for papers. I have a big whiteboard to write down important reminders, like a return I need to make to a store. Something that needs doing as soon as I can but does not have to be done that day. Then pick a time in the week and write in the calender to have something from that list ticked off. I also have another smaller whiteboard that I write 2-3 tasks on at a time only. Once those are complete then have a timed break and write the next 2-3 tasks up on the whiteboard (called my focus board with focus in bold across the top!). Lots of people recommend timers, I find I snooze/ignore them or reset them. :S
I do like the idea of the hot spots for flylady, so just 10-15mins a a particular area that gets bad. Have a special box/basket in each area so pick up things that need to go in a different room/zone. That means you won’t get distracted by going into another area of the house to put something away. For really quick spot cleans have another basket/box (something decorative) to throw in things off the floor that do belong in that room/zone that needs to be sorted but can be dealt with later. Once you have those basics covered in each room/zone then pick one area to start sorting the basket of what needs to go in each area/room and then take the basket with other room/zone items and put those away.
Pick your worst area and make sure you cover that hotspot once a day. Others just do one each day.
Break it down doing a room or zone and then have a drink or play with kids etc.
As for germ/bacterial cleaning I use the wipes to go over the toilet with when I think of it, use microfibre cloths to wipe down sinks/baths/showers very quickly after each use to help limit scum so then more intense cleaning does not have to be so often. Just nominate an intense clean day, break it down into times and do what you can within a specified time and then have a break. Timers help some. Oh and sticky notes, if you are in the middle of doing something and see something else that will pull you away, stop, write it on a sticky note and stick it there. Finish what you are doing.
Daily i would say kitchen dishes and clear benches helps you feel calmer. I don’t shine my sink! A load of clothes washing on or a load put away.
Figure out what you think is important for weekly/fortnightly. Like floors, vacuum, shower etc. Just add to your list as you tackle the smaller lists. Start small, build confidence, and relax.
Another thing I agree with in flylady is taking care of yourself first, having a shower, putting on some moisturizer or whatever will start your day with some kind of boost. Devotion, relaxation, even for 5mins.
Hope this has helped. Now I actually need to follow what I have just advised! EEK Did i mention I have been researching this a lot lately and have spent so much time trying to figure things out that I still have a messy house. oops. I have done the whiteboards and cork board though and need to actually prioritize things now and stop trying to make a full list and start small!
Nicole: I take a mental picture of what the kitchen counters look like when they’re clean and try to remember what it looks like. When the actual kitchen looks too little like the mental picture, and the kitchen counters are cluttered with stuff that doesn’t belong, usually mail that needs sorting and toys and dirty dishes, I know I need to take action.
I try to not go to bed with a sink full of dishes, but I can’t always force myself to do the dishes right after dinner. I at least put the dirty dishes, like plates cups and silverware, in the dishwasher and put it throug ha rinse cycle so the food doesn’t get stuck on while waiting for more dishes to fill it up, and get the pots and pans soaking in the sink—not around the sink or on the stove, but IN the sink. Otherwise, I’ll somehow forget about them.
For the mail and paperwork, I schedule an on-the-fly 5 minutes to throw away ads, toss letters to file in a biiiiiig box that I should really get around to filing someday, stuff coupons into my coupon binder. I have my son collect his stuff and toss it into his room/black hole. Then I wipe down the kitchen counters with a Lysol wipe. I have dark counters, so I usually just wipe where I know someone’s been preparing food.
We have ceramic burners, so that makes it tons easier to clean the top of the stove than electric burners. It takes about 10 minutes to clean at its very dirtiest. I honestly didn’t do a very good job of cleaning the electric burners when we had them—stuff got stuck under them in the drip pans. Looking back, it was too inefficient. Wish I had a better tip for you on that.
I timed myself emptying the dishwasher once, and that took about 10 minutes too. I still hate doing it, but with practice, I’ve gotten more efficient at doing it.
We vacuum the kitchen floors once a week, making sure to get under theedges where the crumbies like to hide.
Every time I fill my car up with gas, I gather up all the trash. Sometimes it takes us a while after the car is full to put all the trash in the trash cans, and people sometimes get impatient, but they’ll just have to wait! I’m cleaning my car, dang it!
Hope this helps!
Autumn Night: It does help! Thank you SO MUCH, you guys. I really appreciate it. I have a really rough time doing the dishes after dinner, but i know that’s the key.
Wouldn’t it be great if there was an A.D.D. List of Weekly Household Chores online? Like, one made up by the A.D.D. experts, made simple and not overwhelming. I know many, many women have trouble keeping house with ADD.
BarbM: Hey there! Read most of your blog & see we are all pretty much on the same wavelength. Tried Fly Lady myself & had to unsubscribe eventually so as not to drown in the onslaught of helpful hints. Learned plenty from her, especially limiting task time to 15 min sessions. We usually burn out & go off to many other things by then. Found I could manage 15 mins at a time much better. I keep Lysol treated cleaning wipes, paper towels, shower spray, microfiber cloth in bathroom for continuous pick up cleaning. Use bleach toilet tabs & frequent swish w/brush. Have supply of plastic bags from shopping to empty upstairs trash bins about every other am to bring downstairs when going to feed before leaving for work. Cats eat on raised shelf in cellar so dog doesn’t explode from grazing. I try to pick up their wet food dish, clean it & leave on washing machine where it air dries & is ready tro use next am. Small, but incredibly helpful organizational tool, I find. Paper clutter is my downfall. Like laundry so constant, but not as predictable. Am cutting down on magazine subscriptions toto eventually recycle or help lessen the load. Don’t have enough time to read all I get & try to hold on to read only to give away unread! Using shredder, leave it in kitchen where we read most of our mail, great tool when used.
ADD RN: Found that it had some helpful suggestions tried cleaning some but I got distracted . Need to go to be for a class tomorrow for work 12 hours so the mess will last at least wo -three more day I am tired but just can’t sleeep I need to take another pill so I will fall off jsut stinks how hard sometimesADD is no matter I wouldn’t rtrade my brain for anyone else I just wish I could organize and sleep two of the most difficult thing in my life.
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