Couples With One ADHD Partner
Making excuses for my ADD husband
He f****s up everything and I have to make excuses for him. What do I say?
Today, I had arranged for someone to go pick up our kids from school while we both were at work. But even though he has no idea what the kids’ schedule is, or all the parts of their day that I manage completely independently of him, he told this person that the kids had a ride from someone else (as they sometimes do on other days.) This person thought that my husband knew what he was talking about, when he was really just idly running his mouth, as he is born to do, so I get a frantic call from the school asking where is the person to pick up the kids?
It took me hours to arrange all the pieces for all our three children. He did not have to do ANYTHING and I took care of all of it, and he still manages to f**** it up. I am so angry and embarrassed. This happens all the time. So what do I say to the teacher? I hate to reveal that he has ADD but I’m sick of covering for him.
If you’ve got ADD, don’t write in telling me to love him more, or something. I am furious and I just need help managing the billion little ways this person holds me back and screws up everything I try to do. BUT HE’S GREAT AT MINECRAFT, I’ll give him that.
I have no one to talk to about this. Need to hear from people who’ve been there.
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