Parents of ADHD Children
I’ve always struggled to maintain healthy/close relationships. I don’t really have a big circle of friends, but I would have to say my husband is my only true friend, he’s my best friend.
I have some friends from over the years who I basically communicate with via texts or at birthday dinners. I don’t speak to them on a daily or weekly basis. None of them really know everything about me. Never talked about my struggles with ADD, low self esteem, etc. At this point, they have probably figured it out on their own, but it’s never been a topic of conversation.
I said all that to say, I’m noticing my kids don’t have many friends either. There might be a couple of girls they go on play dates with or sleepovers but their friendships don’t seem to last.. Sometimes I think I am to blame. Since I’m not great at maintaining relationships, I don’t know if that has maybe rubbed off on my kids. No one calls them to hang out or anything. I think at times, parents of the kids my daughters meet find me to be standoffish or Not very genuine? I’m just guessing but you never know…
They will be at a new school this September and I’m hoping for them to make friends. Middle school is a big deal to them and most kids at that age have established friendships already.
My kids are great, sweet but different from the average kid. They do struggle in school which makes things even harder. I think kids in middle school tend to be more judgmental and that worries me.
My kids are twins.. One usually makes friends easier than the other. Her twin has always had a hard time making friends… She’s also the most sensitive and gets both positive and negative attention.
The negative attention at school I’m sure hasn’t helped with making friends .. Getting in trouble for not paying attention, forgetting homework, not passing tests, etc. Some of the teachers my kids have had were so hard on them even knowing that they have ADD. My kids hate school because of it…their self -esteem has gone down too.
Does anyone have any tips on how I can help my kids with making and keeping friends?
Do I have to go out my way to make friends with the parents of the kids too?
Interesting…My parents didn’t have very close friends either. They are divorced but both very lonely and don’t really have friends they call to hang out with.
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