Ok, you want a treat here it is have some of your dinner.
Dinner time we all sit at the table, whether you eat or not is up to you but we all sit and when everyone is done then you may leave.
That way they can’t say I’m not hungry or keep playing they have to stop and chances are they will eat something.
Snack is at 7:30pm so that’s when you may have a snack, and it has to be healthy.
Make up veggies and dip or fruit and cheese, pepperoni sticks ,crackers for snacking throughout the day.
Kids will eat when they are hungry just like adults, if you’re not hungry you won’t eat well, neither will a child and really why should they? Just because you think it’s time to eat they might not be hungry.  Stay persistant something will work, just don’t give in and offer a consequence for the constant nagging, like a time out.

I almost always involve my children in the meal preparation.  This always seems to get them really excited about tasting it and eventually sitting down to eat it. 
Especially after they get to serve the whole family what they helped to prepare.
Even if its just setting the table or making a centerpiece or saying the grace…
I even involve my 2 1/2 year old! They all love to help and are proud of themselves afterward.

Also, within reason you could let them have a say in the menu planning.  Have them look through easy to do cook books and find a meal they would like.

I understand what your going through since I have picky eaters myself, as well as behavior problems at the dinner table.  Sometimes I can’t wait for the meal time to get over, it seems it takes forever…

Involving them seems to be the trick for mine.  Hope it works for you!

I can totally relate!!  My daughter, now 8, had to be picked up at summer camp once because they sat her down to eat lunch and she got so upset and started crying…..she never wanted to go back….this happened when she was 4 and she still remembers about that horrible place that ” made her eat “.

People can give you all the tips and tricks on how to get them to eat….but at least for me, nothing works!  She can spend hourrrrrs without eating and when she does eat, her menu is very limited.  I involve her in cooking every day…she loves to help me cook, set the table, “play waitress and take our order” but no eating!

The only thing I can count on is pediasure.  She still drinks at least 3 a day.

I’ve done bloodwork on her and the dr says that she’s perfectly healthy and right on target with her weight.

I’ve chosen not to fight her on it anymore and enjoy our time together….good luck!

I too can relate. My solution is to offer my 5yr old what he will eat rather then to say “you have to eat what we are eating”  I have tried including him during meal decision and preperation all to have my heart broke because in the end he didnt want to eat it.  Even if he is not hungry right when I am he eventually eats (which I believe can be due to meds)  I am not going to stress and pester him to eat if he is not hungry and the yelling has 98% gone away by not making him sit with us. Although he has just to talk to us about his day. When he gets hungry he would rather make his own dinner and ask for help when needed. which is fine by me   Pick your battles wisley and remember yelling solves nothing

mymonster i couldnt agree more…my son is 9 and he is the same he usually wants cereal or a sandwich and its usually after we all eat .. i too got tired of the big ordeal with meal time and said u know what i just cant do this everyday.. so usually 30 or 40 mins after we eat he will make a bowl of cereal or make a sandwich he knows no snacks until he eats something i agree on for dinner… there are so many other things going on that i just rather not fight about what and when he eats…but i do not give a snack until he eats dinner…somethings work for some kids and somethings dont and on this he is more stubborn than i am lol… with mine i just give an option u dont want what i cook fine but here are your choices cereal or a sandwich or burritos if we have them atleast he eats good luck with your children just try different stuff u will find what works

Your kids need to be more polite. Not scream about that food for them.

I’d connect this behavior (their being impolite, not the non-eating) with rewards and consequences.

They should not be eating in between meals if they don’t eat any regular meals. Instead, they set up a control battle and get lots of attention for it. If they don’t eat lunch, and don’t eat snacks all afternoon, I have a feeling they’ll be hungry at suppertime.

AND they should quietly come to the table. You deserve it!
Patricia Aust: CT Task Force on ADHD/author of HYPER HARRY (Amazon.com and Amazon Kindle Store.)

There’s a really good book called ‘Understanding Girls with AD/HD’.

Below is the link to the book on Amazon - cut and paste it into your browzer if you want to have a look.  I have found this book to be very helpful.  There is a section on eating and how taste, texture and smell can be problematic for kids with ADHD.

The authors comment that picky eaters might just be overwhelmed by all the tastes, textures and smells and that blander food might work better.  They do comment that food battles are very rarely productive, so minimise the junk food, have health food available and let the children to choose their diet, within reason.

Kirk Martin from Celebrate Calm suggests not forcing kids to the table, but for everyone who is at the table to really enjoy themselves.  Talk, laugh, eat - don’t worry about the non-eater so much, and hopefully they wil start to feel they are missing out and want to join in.  YOU might have a better time at the table if there isn’t a battle going on.

The authors of the girls with ADHD book also point out many girls will outgrow this stage.  My own daughter’s eating (she’s now 10) can be erratic but she will eat toast, so I buy a hi fibre low GI bread and if all else fails give her toast.  As a child I seem to remember I would only eat Weetbix or fruitcake (much to my mother’s dismay)but now I love just about all foods (except tripe and pigs trotters!)

Good luck!

Here is that link -
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_19?url=search-alias=stripbooks&field-keywords=understanding+girls+with+adhd&sprefix=Understanding+Girls,stripbooks,537