I might suggest you do get out more. You may also find that while you are working the adrenneline keeps you going but you have a big let down when you are through. 

I had a job like that, I found a way to stay at the office 12 to 14 hours a day and work when I came home and weekends. It was great until my boss turned into an a-hole and I couldn’t stop and I became resentful. Next thing you know I was begging my wife to let me quit until my resentment got me fired.

Use your off time to recharge your batteries not by crashing or drinking like I did but excersizing and finding people to have conversations with.

At some point you might need to find a way to change conditions on the job or find something else that you can enjoy that does not burn you out.

It depends on your ability to resist or be consumed. Please don’t let yourself be consumed. Your partner seems to have your best interest in mind. You maybe to close to see the forest for the trees.

You might also talk to your doctor abour increasing your dose to last longer. Maybe when the meds wear off it is causing you to crash.

Just a few things to consider.

Good luck
Augie
http://addsherpa.com

Hi Clearwords, Yup, I experienced the same thing. I am a RN. I worked in the hospital most of my career. Juggling patients, Meds, call lights, doctors, noise all day long…..when I got home I didn’t feel like doing anything! I just wanted to be alone. But, at the constant prompting of friends…to get out more, I decided to commit to one day a week. I actually enjoyed my time out. I realized there was truth in the saying, all work and no play makes a person very dull. I think it is also very good to have another interest besides work. Another thing I did when I went out and wasn’t sure how long I would last,  I always drove to the location by myself so if I felt like leaving I wasn’t disturbing anyone else’s fun. Just my two cents.

I can really relate to this one. I worked for an insurance company for 25 years which was actually not a great industry for an ADDer as it is too detail oriented. But I ran a small office and was on the road a lot so it was good that way. I worked REALLY hard (felt like I had to to keep up. I did not know I had adhd and found it amazing how much I could get done on weekends without any distractions after getting next to nothing done paperwork-wise all week). But I was exhausted when home and gone much of the time and my marriage crashed and burned. I was EXHAUSTED all the time. I went out but it was to DRINK BEER (quit that 13 years ago just as my marriage was failing). So yeah relax with your partner and don’t work so hard. Life is too stinkin’ short and having ADHD makes us burn out because everything is so EMOTIONAL all day long. Every darn decision feels emotional to us. Sorry to be longwinded. Coach Pete Resch http://www.attentionandfocuscoaching.com

I have this problem on days/projects that require exceptional focus, as well as when I have several meetings in a week that require I sit still and listen for hours.

I recommend setting aside time for yourself each day after work—half an hour works for me—to just sit and stare, or clean, or do whatever you do to let your brain loosen up. I agree that exercise is great for this—for me, running allows my mind to let go of extreme focus and re-engage in its normal stream-of-consciousness thinking patterns. Plus, I imagine the additional oxygen to the brain gives it a charge.

And don’t put too much pressure on yourself to change completely!  Strike a compromise with your partner—if you don’t go out ever, set a goal of socializing once a week. Find the middle ground that works for both of you and not just one or the other.

Clearworks,

I would also suggest try to get out to socialize at least once a week. Also, you should schedule some time to exercise, read, or write or what you are interested in besides work. or maybe if your job is burning yourself out maybe it would be time to start looking for a new job. I hope this helps.