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Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and ADHD

Missing my support

Hi there,
I’ve recently been diagnosed. So much of my life finally makes sense. I’ve also recently lost my husband, he was my support. I was adopted, that family gave up on me a long time ago. I’m trying to learn to live for myself….
I’m not sure what I’m hoping for here, but, I see that I’m not alone.


Just stick with this site to get ideas/solutions from others who may have a similar situation like yours.  You could also post in another group with more people; you may get more responses.  I am sorry to hear about your husband.  I would be lost without my husband; he is my support too.  It is also sad that your family gave up on you.  You sound pretty with it for what you seem to have gone through.  My suggestion would be to rise above everything and do things that make you happy or do things for others.  I m not a Bible pusher, but becoming a Christian (maybe you are) helps a lot.  You can get support from your church members, praying, reading the bible, and just believing there is a plan for you.  Trust in God and let him lead you.  You also sound like a nice person who would be good at this.  This Group is great but small.  You could also talk to a counselor or Minister about your situation.  Just remember that everything in your life has a reason for happening and you are only given what you can endure.  I never realized that I would have to endure so much, but perhaps in the end, it makes you a stronger person.  Good luck and I hope others can give you more input.

Posted by JADD on Dec 27, 2013 at 12:55am

Hi! I’m long overdo with joining this group. I’m so sorry anout your husband. I too would he lost. I unexpectantly lost the canine love of my life 2 months and I was just a holow shell for the first two weeks…I got through it with the help of medsn otherwise I was afraid I would never come out of the clinical depression I was in. No disrespect to you losing a husband. I’m not trying to equate the two as what you went through would throw me over the edge for certain. Good for you for reaching out to this group and know that because you did, I saw the subject matter of add and ptsd pop up on my cell phone which made me log in to this group.  I have ADD and within the last couple of years have realized I have ptsd and have met with one counselor but will start up again soon.  The PTSD is so bad that I allowed my former employer to get away with firing me when I went on medical leave. I went through a lot of harrassement so that make my ptsd really bad so I didn’t fight it because I thought I was worthless and they had a right to fire me!! Note I was on medical leave because of a health relaspe I had from a workplace exposure to a toxic substance. Feb 2012 I was driving down the freeway and I said out loud to myself. What they did was illegal! That is when I knew I was slowly healing. Priblem is is the statute of limitations has expired and I can’t find a lawyer who would want to take this on. If you know of anyone or have any suggustions, I would appreciate it.

Posted by Your ADD Coach, Linda Baumert on Dec 27, 2013 at 1:13am

Just wanted 2 let y’all know that I understand a lot of what everyone is going through,I have opted & @ 51 diagnosed with add…never had a clue since it wasn’t heard of much & I was a good student always in the top 3 of my classes & I was to be in the accelerated program @ school,but my father wouldn’t allow it.anyway I guess we all have our little quirks that make us unique,I believe my adhd is mostly the “hyperactive"mind & I always fidget.I would like to help in anyway I can & I’m here 2 learn as well. Bless you all & I feel for everyone going through the loss of their loved ones,regardless if human or animal,it is hard to endure.specialk4762

Posted by specialk4762 on Dec 27, 2013 at 6:56am

Hey, I’m Lisa C. (aka Beauty for Ashes)  I am a 47 yr. old mother and wife with ADHD. Been through alot and came out stronger and finally accepted me for the way God made me. You must see yourself through the eyes of the One who created you. And seek His healing and His will for your future. He will NEVER leave you or forsake you!!! I promise… God loves you, everyone, just the way we are, but desires to transform us into His image, and it is NOT easy, it is very humbling and difficult, but like a mosaic, He will take all the broken pieces and transform us into a beautiful,unique person.If we yield to Him and trust in Him, He will do it…Bless you for the New Year.

Posted by beauty for ashes on Dec 30, 2013 at 7:57am

You are not alone in this, I will support you if you support me. Sorry for the loss of your husband. My name is Altheia, I live in Florida email me anytime you are having a hard time. .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address).

Posted by journeywomyn on Feb 03, 2014 at 2:31pm

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