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I have so many things that I would like to do for myself…. work more at the church, go back to school, volunteer at an animal rescue barn, etc,  Wonderful ideas, but the best laid plans of mice and men…

I want to ACCOMPLISH something!  Go back to school and get my degree (just don’t ask me in what field… that is a whole other discussion). Organize and execute our church outreach efforts. Assist with fundraising for animal rescue. Completely redesign my apartment. Organize and plan various events for our church and my employer, even the family,,,but I start off strong then I fizzle out that is IF I don’t CHICKEN OUT first!!

Suggestions? Comments? 

It is nice to be here with people that understand me and I don’t have to feel like somebody wants to deem me incompetent and lock me away.  smh…

Am I hopeless??


Sometimes people chicken out because the job is too big. Break down your dream plans into tiny bits.  Instead of saying “I am going to get a new degree”, say “I am going to make a bookmark for all colleges in my area on my computer.”  Then maybe you could say “I am going to call the admissions office and see if someone will talk to me on the phone about taking one class”  Or, instead of “I am going to asist with fundraising for animal rescue” say “I am going to visit the animal rescue place and Maybe casually chat with someone about how they do fundraising. Take small minimal commitment steps and it might reduce anxiety about the overall dream.

Posted by Juggler on Jul 11, 2014 at 3:58am

Hi, so i was diagnosed in Oct 2013 with ADHD, anxiety, and depression.  I got on meds and let me tell you I have been doing so much better.  So i attempted online university this past May and got a B and mind you its a new class every month 4.5 units.  There are days i feel overwhelmed and other days i am ok.  Like today Its 203am and i have been starring at the textbook for 3 hours.  Its possible to accomplish what you want but it will not be easy.  I work out which i have slack off for 2 wks but that was helping with anxiety.  Anyway, don’t beat yourself up.  Take one day at a time and one thing you want to do at a time.

Posted by misscaligirl on Jul 11, 2014 at 9:06am

Hi Red Robbin,
The many things are overwhelming. Just one thing, one manageable, short-term thing, is a good place to start. That will give you confidence to focus on the second thing. This sounds easy but it takes a lifetime of practice to learn to follow Mathew 6:34.

Posted by John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach on Jul 11, 2014 at 9:59am

One of the positive things about ADHD is the ability to think outside the box and see a world of endless possibilities, but those endless possibilities can be overwhelming and keep you stuck.
You have some wonderful great big goals; to get your degree, to help your church, to help animals and to get organized. But where do you start?
Start anywhere you want to and start small. Take one course. Volunteer for one hour at church. Help one animal. Organize one shelf or drawer. Do one thing and see how it goes and then do another.
Don’t worry about the end result, don’t be attached to the outcome. Go for progress, not perfection and keep starting over.

Posted by coachkathy on Jul 11, 2014 at 11:08am

Thank you. Thank you all so much!!  The major commonality that I see in each of your comments is “start with one thing”.  You’re so right, that is the perfect place to begin.  And that it can be one “small” thing, I don’t have to tackle the biggest items on my lists.

This is great!  I do take medicine (when I don’t get side tracked and forget about it) and it usually helps.  There are some days when everything is just crazy and everyone wants something, all of them are priorities and they all want it yesterday!    Those days are tough, even with meds!  I have to step away on days like that and try to gather my thoughts before I can jump back in.

I read a post of someone else’s that suggested using soothing instrumental music to help focus, instead of w lyrics so that it is less likely to be distracting.  That is a wonderful idea as well.

Again, thank you all so much for taking the time to leave me some ideas and suggestions and for the encouragement.  I will be here alot!!

Posted by redrobin0604 on Jul 12, 2014 at 4:55pm

Hi again RedRobin!

I left you links to some great strategies on organization over on your other recent post. I just wanted to add here some advice on tackling projects here. As the others have already said, it’s about breaking it down into more manageable pieces.

This article, “14 Ways to Get the Job Done,” has great strategies for tackling projects like those you describe:

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

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