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Christians With ADHD

My 10 year old son is really struggling, meds seem like placebo
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Hi, I am a Christian Mom with a 10 yr old son with SEVERE ADHD since birth pretty much. He has gone down hill academically significantly since last year (4th grade). He has been on EVERY type of stimulant ADHD med on the market until they seem like a placebo and he’s once again switched to another. His Doctor has had to put him on VERY high doses bc he seems to metabolize them all in just a few hours. He also struggles with a desire to do his best, or wanting to learn, lying, manipulating etc. It is VERY difficult to face knowing we didn’t raise him to lie or manpulate people. :( We are at our wits ends. Praying for wisdom. DO NOT see myself fighting him on a VERY strict diet to TRY to help. I am already too stressed out for that chance. I have him seeing a counselor. He has a 504 plan at school and getting an IEP in place currently. Could really use some advice on how to help my son.??? R.Shamy

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You could try a Doctor of Naturopathy, a herbalist or, indeed any health practitioner who understands supplements and ADHD.

December’s Psychology Today has a huge article about good foods for the brain. While he might grimace at Swiss Chard there are other foods, good for brain health, that he might like.

Also the webste, and app, Focus@will plays music which creates calm and helps people to focus. I play it in my office all day. Visiting clients always ask me to let it play throughout the session

Posted by John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach on Oct 26, 2016 at 3:39pm

Hi I just joined this website today.  I am also a Christian mom of a 9 year old ADHD.
I do not have an answer for you or any real good advice.  I just wanted to say you are not alone.  It really helps me to know that too.
I often tell my son that as well.  He is not alone.  There are so many successful happy people out there who has lived through this condition.  God is with us.  smile
My son has such a beautiful spirit and has always been so honest.  I love that about him.  I often tell him that God made him special just for Him.
I have been giving my son concerta since the 2nd grade.  (First grade was rittilan) We have been on 45 (a mix of 18 & 27) for 2 years now.  It doesn’t seem to be working anymore either.  We tried 54 but that was horrible for him so we tried Adderall.  After 4 doses of that we quit because it was a new level of horrible.  Anyway we don’t know what to do.  We pray a lot and talk openly and honestly about all of it.  The drugs change him more and more.  It has to be kept in the open and talked about and prayed about often because the reality is - he has to live with this - and so do I.  I pray God’s rest and peace on you and your child.  If it be His will I pray for healing and if His will be for our children to live with this then I pray for wisdom that we my know how to loving live with it and turn it into something for His Glory.  In the name of Jesus Christ I pray.  Amen

Posted by I love my son on Oct 26, 2016 at 5:42pm

The first step is to recognize and accept that your son’s ADHD symptoms (lack of motivation, lying, manipulation) aren’t a character flaw. This is due to the brain he was born with. This is a physiological difference no one can change.

Now, to be clear, I’m not saying it’s ok to lie or be manipulative. I’m saying it’s a symptom of ADHD (or co-existing conditions like anxiety and LDs). As such, you have to teach him more appropriate ways to navigate his struggles.

I also know the constant failing medications struggle. My son’s medication would lose effectiveness every 6 weeks like clockwork. He couldn’t tolerate high doses though, due to slow metabolism, anxiety, and extreme sensitivity to medications and supplements. What helped him for a long time, until it built up too much, was adding Amantadine to his stimulant. Very, very few doctors know about the use of Amantadine with ADHD. If you’re seeing a pediatrician for ADHD medication, I encourage you to seek out a specialist—they will have a lot more experience with ADHD medication tougher cases.

Why those with ADHD find it hard to motivate: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/10117.html.

Why Kids with ADHD Lie:
http://www.additudemag.com/adhdblogs/32/11022.html
http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/5705.html

Parenting the Works for ADHD:
http://www.additudemag.com/slideshow/30/slide-1.html

Penny
ADDconnect Moderator, Author on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen boy with ADHD, LDs, and autism

Posted by adhdmomma on Oct 27, 2016 at 12:28pm

I am glad I have the chance to weigh in… First off, people with ADHD have motivational focus problems; which means that they have a very hard time staying focused on one subject. I mean focusing on the task at hand without being distracted or getting bored before the task is complete.. I am 64 with ADHD w/bits of other disabilities sprinkled in.
Every situation is different but have some of the same symptoms. Don’t worry about the lying; or any other trait that takes you off the FOCUS of your sons problem. He does not know or realize why he is like he is. All kids ” “children” go through different moods and lifestyle changes, at different time. For instance: becoming an adolescent. The change from a 8 year old to a 14 year old at the age of…11. There is so much to consider, and I had to learn it all by myself even, including the present time as the medical professionals aren’t professionals… They are just like me and you, with one difference:they are learning about the afliction of the ADD, ADHD etc. by seeing a lot of people with one or many of the disabilities all together in one child.
My SUGGESTION: Calm Down; if you son is acting out please try and figure out what is the problem. He may think that he is one of the outcasts and doesn’t wan’t any more attention that he already gets. Don’t let the doctor make all the decisions. You have to get more involved in your sons life, so you can try and understand what might be a direction to follow. And don’t be afraid to ask your son if he understands what is happening in his young life.. AND don’t forget YOU are not alone. These diseases are of ADD, ADHD, and a host of others are the most undiagnosed in todays society. WHY? Because no one wants to think that their son / daughter is afflicted with something.
THERE IS LOTS MORE: for instance, did you kn ow that when Either was added to gasoline for better mileage in the 50’s, that when the Either is combustionized it settles in the ground and is drawn into the water supply which causes ADD / ADHD, etc.when we drink the water. Did you know that in the last 20 years there has been a 600% rise in Autism. If you keep doing research you can connect the government to most if not all this crap.
I have to go as I am getting worked up..

Thank you for the opportunity to explain…

Posted by schatz on Oct 27, 2016 at 11:56pm

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