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Parents of ADHD Children

My Child

Good Afternoon,

I’m the mother of a child w/ADHD. He was diagnosed about 3 months ago. He’s been taking Vyvanse and everything seemed fine until today. He had an outburst at school. This is all so new to me but I just feel so helpless. How common is for the meds to not work on some days? Any help you can provide is greatly appreciated.



Oh thank you bakinggoddess23. I’ve been beating myself up all day since I got that call. Racking my brain to figure out what happened. I guess I just have to learn what to expect and not expect. It’s all so new to me.

Posted by bgsmith1109 on May 03, 2014 at 1:29am

I couldn’t agree more. My eldest (now 10) is also on Vyvanse and it took quite a while to find the right dosing for her - too quiet vs too impulsive. We found a happy balance and then had to change it again as she grew and her hormones changed. However, even with all of that managed, she would (and does) still occasionally have meltdowns or bad days. I don’t think these have anything to do with the ADHD alone, I think it’s more of growing up and learning how to cope with friends, school, herself. Stuff that all kids go through. She just has a more intense reaction. You just have to take a deep breath and wait for it to pass… The next day is usually better grin

Posted by FunTimes on May 03, 2014 at 1:34am

Another thing to keep in mind is that the best meds at the best dose for any individual person (child or adult) does not get rid of every single ADHD symptom that individual has.  It helps; it does not “fix” or “cure” everything.

Posted by BC on May 03, 2014 at 1:48am

My son on medication is slightly more willing to do things he hates, and can focus a bit longer than he might without. Otherwise a lot of the ADHD symptoms (disorganized,  emotional, etc.) are the same. Plus other factors will influence his day too… if he’s hungry, if he didn’t sleep well the night before, if he’s overwhelmed, etc.

The biggest ADHD “cure” I’ve found is knowledge. The only way you’re going to help your son is by really understanding ADHD. Read Russell Barkley’s book called Taking Charge of ADHD and/or any of his videos online (he’s basically *the* ADHD authority out there right now). And if there are any ADHD parenting courses available near you, sign up! I’ve read a ton on ADHD, seen a bunch of videos, participated in online discussions, and I’m still learning a bunch in the 12 week course I’ve been going to.

Posted by Rai0414 on May 04, 2014 at 9:46am

Dr. Barkley does seem like *the* ADHD authority out there right now, and I suspect that is due to the shameless self-promotion and oodles of YouTube video promotions found on this site & elsewhere. 

He’s not the *only* authority, however, so do yourself the favor of exposing yourself to other noted authorities as well.  Do not take everything on face-value, use some critical-thinking on everything you hear or read. 

Barkley’s “authority” at one time was unquestionably among the best, but as of late I have reasons to suspect he’s completely sold out to Eli Lilly (makers of Strattera which will be falling off the patent cliff shortly).  His most recent “discoveries” of a new classification—sluggish cognitive tempo—are highly controversial, at best, and highly suspect, at worst.  You will find stuff “out there” which would make it appear AS IF this new classification (which has a clinical trial showing that Strattera is more effective than placebo for SCT) is a widely agreed upon entity.  One would think that if there is a published set of criteria for SCT that all the ADHD authorities have agreed that it DOES exist.  However, about the only person who is SO SURE that it does exist is Barkley since he’s the one who wrote & published this criteria himself (sells for >$130 a pop, per patient) and conducted the clinical study showing Strattera was more effective than placebo which was funded by Eli Lilly.  So take everything with a grain of salt.

Posted by BC on May 04, 2014 at 6:22pm

Interesting info!  That could all be very true, I don’t follow that research much so don’t really know.  I know his book and a few of the videos on ADHD are very good at explaining ADHD to the newly diagnosed though.

I know he’s started leaning on the pro medication side much more heavily than he once was, but I have also started leaning that way myself through more learning and experience.  We were discussing him in our parenting group this week, and the psychologist leading the group also admitting to being more… promotional? of medication the more she’s learned and seen in practice.  Up here in Canada there seems to be quite a stigma against medication for ADHD, and trying alternative therapies first, so this attitude seems to be counter culture up here.

Having said all that though, I also realise after a ton of learning and experience that the biggest key to success for an ADHD kid seems to be a parent willing to support them.  Sleep, protein, omega 3, exercise… these all help a bit.  The medication helps more.  But without constant support from me and his teachers, my son would never make it.

Posted by Rai0414 on May 05, 2014 at 3:49am

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