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My situation, seeking help

I’m a 31 year old male in central Wisconsin. I’ve suffered from undiagnosed depressive add since childhood, but it’s now getting out of control and I need to find help. I have what I consider a not-so-average situation, between my actual problem and my finances. Basically I’m asking if anyone here can steer me towards a healthcare professional that they have personal experience with. A psychologist that listens, understands, and is not judgmental. I realize that should be all of them, but the one time I could afford to see someone, I wasn’t even screened- only told I didn’t need help and was brushed away. I’ve googled my brains out, but even patient reviews aren’t particularly informative enough for me to settle on what is currently my ONLY shot at help in the foreseeable future. I can’t afford or emotionally deal with that negative type of response again from a mental health expert, I NEED help soon before my life gets any worse. Please, if someone knows a psychologist remotely close to central Wisconsin that is actually compassionate, PLEASE let me know. Thank you for your time.



Hi mbrownell4. I am a former midwesterner living in the mid-Atlantic now so I do not have any personal experience with any mental health professionals in your area, but I do know of a resource you might find helpful in your search for a mental health professional. Psychology Today has a tool on their website that allows users to search for a mental health professional using a lot of very specific categories. For instance, you can narrow your search by geographic area (WI), area of specialization (ADHD, depression), and even health insurance carrier. If you don’t get any specific recommendations here, you might try it. Go to, then click on the “Find a Therapist” tab, enter your state or zip code, then click along the left hand side of the page to “Refine Your Search” as narrow or as wide as suits you. This is a great tool!! Depression goes hand in hand with undiagnosed ADHD. Hang in there. Good luck and all the best to you.  Becky

Posted by ral77851 on Jul 26, 2014 at 6:21pm

If you have AD/HD, it might be more useful to find an AD/HD coach than a psychologist. And with video conferencing of several sorts, it may not be necessary to have someone local. whether coach or psychologist. Many counselors who are effective in helping with various life issues do not have psychology degrees. Sometimes I think it is an inverse relationship.

Are you on medication? I found Adderal more effective at helping my lifelong ‘anxiety and depression’ than any tranquilizer or antidepressant. I think the chemical imbalance of AD/HD for me, which was not dx’d until some months ago at 58, had me disrupted enough that my body tried using adrenaline to compensate and when that crashed, my mood would sink into blackness from panic. I am one of the adults too old to have been dx’d when this was just starting to be treated and the meme was only boys, only hyperactive and everyone of them outgrew it.

All the counselors, psychologists, 3 psychiatrists, various doctors, did not catch my AD/HD until my current PCP who is also adult dx’d AD/HD recognized it. I think the novelty of appointments or the other events going on that were reasonable to assume I was simply depressed or anxious, covered up my symptoms. I am on the low end of symptoms but still enough to have been a significant burden. The right med to help my brain function felt like finally something I’ve been missing lifelong was there. Instead of having to run on adrenaline, I had the right fuel.

Had I had this med long ago, I think most of the need for the other counselors, doctors, and meds would not have been needed except in at most 2 situations where the shock was significant enough.

You might check with a locally based crisis line to see if there is anyone they can recommend.

Posted by Gadfly on Jul 26, 2014 at 9:05pm


Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time finding help for your ADHD/Depression. I’m glad you reached out on this site.

I know how frustrating the process can be to find a professional who is qualified, caring, and actually listen to what you are saying because it took me approximately 12 years to find someone who would actually take me seriously. I’ve had professionals tell me flat out: “You don’t have ADHD” Despite this, I kept fighting both with insurance companies and providers I finally succeeded at age 44 this past June and was given a thorough screening and testing for Adult ADHD and found out that I do in fact have ADHD like I had suspected for a very long time.

Unfortunately, I live in Iowa and am not very familiar with Wisconsin so I don’t know any providers in your state. One suggestion I could suggest is to call any Social Service Agencies in Wisconsin and perhaps someone could recommend someone who is know to be good. If you do run across a professional who you think could help you don’t immediately take “No we can’t see you.” or “No we won’t see you.” for an answer. I finally found a clinic in the Des Moines area that seemed very good. My insurance company said the professional was in network with my insurance plan. However, when I called the place they informed me that testing was not covered by my insurance, which ended up not being true. If I hadn’t challenged them I would still be undiagnosed. So my point is Don’t Give Up. It may take awhile and may not be easy but it is worth it in the end when you do find the right professional that can help you.

Posted by becca2322 on Jul 28, 2014 at 2:35pm

Thanks for the replies and kind words. To Gadfly, no, I’m not prescribed any thing, nor have been. 6 or 7 years ago I experimented with adderall sourced illicitly and it was a godsend. I was a normal person on it. Of course, that was a short-lived source, and it’s nowhere to be found like that around here any more. I know it works, very well, but I don’t see myself admitting that to a professional. That’s a sure fire way to get pinned as a “shopper”. Besides, I’m really only going to be able to afford 1 shot with a pro. Uninsured, and fairly well paid, social services doesn’t take all my scheduled debt payments and collections into account when reviewing my income.

Posted by mbrownell4 on Jul 31, 2014 at 5:23pm

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