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My son is angry and violent

My 11 year old has also become withdrawn and angry. It’s hard to even Speak to him because he is so angry. He also is violent when he doesn’t get his way. He hits and kicks me and I don’t know how to help him. We’ve recently switched meds to see if it helps. It’s been 1 1/2 weeks and there is no change.  We are trying a behavior chart but he only does things if he wants to.  Do I take him off meds entirely and hope for the best in school?  How do I help him?  At times I’m afraid of him and at times I’m afraid for him. We are also meeting with a psychological. I can’t find a support group in il western suburbs.


I recently went through the same exact thing with my 10 year old son. We had upped the dosage of his medication and it was just too much for him to handle. He was so angry all the time and everyone had to walk on eggshells around him, especially me. I took him back to the doctor, who lowered the dosage of meds a little bit and it has made all the difference in the world. Hope you can find something to help him, best of luck to you and your family.

Posted by adavidson1982 on Nov 25, 2013 at 3:34am

Hi sleroux!

I would talk with the prescribing doc about this right away. He can’t continue on medication that causes dangerous behavior, for his sake as well as the family. There are a few different kinds of stimulants and it may be that he can’t tolerate this category but could tolerate another. (My son became angry and violent when he tried both Adderall and Vyvanse—both amphetamine class, but takes methylphenidates well.) Or, it may be that he can’t tolerate stimulants at all and there are alternatives to that as well.

Reach out to his doctor right away!
ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Nov 25, 2013 at 8:35pm

You pretty much just described my son from a year and a half ago. Our pediatric psychiatrist put my son on Prozac to treat depression and that’s what worked. It took a while to take effect (2-4 weeks) and then we had to increase the dosage, so another 2-4 weeks, but made a significant difference. If Oppositional Defiant Disorder is an issue then how you parent him is important. Lots of good books on that subject and great articles here. Best of luck.

Posted by deknee on Nov 29, 2013 at 7:45pm

Hi sleroux
I understand your situation. I have a 7 year old that because of my cultural background we did not think he had ADHD. But he got diagnosed, he took Adderall and I wasn’t completely sold on in to many doses a day, so when he turn 6 he changed completely so we tried Vyvanse worst decision he was aggresive hitting himself and my husband, yelling at 1 or 3 in the morning it was overwhelming then I started researching and found Concerta and he is a different kid, he is caring, helpful and in school he is brilliant. My opinion for you talk to his DR about it, do some research on new meds out there and other thing is occupy his mind with stuff he loves and I wish you all the luck in the world.

Posted by MyboyLove06 on Nov 29, 2013 at 8:26pm

My son is now 15.. and still deal with the occasional angry outburst.. but at 11 he was the same way.

I think every child reacts differently to specific meds.. as we had the complete opposite experience than MyboyLove06… Concerta made him angry and violent… he went off meds for about 18 months and then HE decided he wanted to try something at the end of 8th grade.. went to Vyvanse.. it works like a charm.

I think it is a constant dance of monitoring, maturing and experimenting with the right med/dosage/diet and structure. 

Hang in there!

Posted by Lori T on Nov 30, 2013 at 7:57pm

If you would like to try a cognitive-behavioral approach to supplement the meds, consider getting the “Zones of Regulation” book (check out the website).  I find this curriculum useful for myself and my family, and have used it, with good results, in my work with children.

Posted by GBM on Dec 01, 2013 at 8:54pm

My son is 11 years old and he anger also hard to calm him down at school.  The doctor change his medicine and I hope that will help him with it.

Posted by sdelaine on Dec 11, 2013 at 4:58am

Having the exact same issue with my 9 yr old right now. My little man yells, screams, throws things, knocks over chairs, hits me, and we have no clue what to do. The slightest thing can throw him off. We’ve tried clamping down and not letting him get away with anything… and then we’ve tried be very calm and patient and giving him some space. And a combination of the two. His self talk has been less than wonderful too.
  We’re starting counselling/behaviour therapy on Jan 10th. and have and appt with his dr just before that.
  I think I’ll be suggesting Prozac as well instead if the Luvox he’s on.
  Such a sad feeling when your little ones have so many feelings and just can’t figure a way to sort them yet. How I wish we could all just snap a finger and take it all way from them.
  Thinking of you all this holiday season and hoping you all have some peaceful moments💞

Posted by Carebear on Dec 29, 2013 at 12:10am

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