Need advice on how to approach family with new diagnosis
I was just diagnosed less than a month ago with ADHD, combined type at age 44.
In some ways I am relieved to have the diagnosis because it finally confirms what I have strongly suspected for a very long time. However, I’m not sure how I should approach my parents and other family members regarding my diagnosis.
My mom didn’t think there was any way I could have ADD when I mentioned it to her a number of years ago so I never brought it up again with my parents. Even a very good friend didn’t believe me. I can understand why people maybe wouldn’t think I could have ADHD because as a child I was shy, quiet, well-behaved in school, and tried not to let on if I didn’t understand something. I got decent grades through LOTS of hard work and help/tutoring from my parents.
My parents are good people and I’m afraid if I tell them they will think and feel that they were bad parents. Anyway, part of me wonders if I should tell them at all but part of me also really wants to tell my family because by not telling them I feel as though I would not be doing anything to help reduce the stigma and also might help explain why I have had issues throughout my adult life with jobs, relationships, etc. I think my family thinks I’m lazy as my brother and sister are both highly accomplished individuals with very good jobs.
I would appreciate any suggestions or hearing from others about how they disclosed their diagnosis to family.
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