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ADHD in Boys

Need diagnosis and treatment for 6 year old


hello:i just joined add connect 6 yr old son Christopher,s teacher,s are telling me they believe he has adha. his pediatrician also believes it but says she could not asses him or treat him and suggested a pediatric psychiatrist. I have been asking everyone and trying to research this.i was told not to go to a psychiatrist but a psychologist because psychiatrist will put him on meds right away.he is very hyper and cannont focusand disturbes his classmates. I talked to a clynical pediatric psychologist and they want 6 to 12 weeks just to asses him. then meetings with teachers(all of which cost a fortune). I don,t know which way to start out. some pediatricians will treat him. but I don,t want to ive my baby substandard care. I was told you cannot cure adha with therapy. do I just go with less expensive way (pediatrician) or pay thousands of dollars to find out what I have already been told. HELP 57 year old single parent . RONNIE



It may be a psychiatrist’s inclination to use medication right away, but you are his parent and you ultimately get to make that choice. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends therapy and medication together for the most ideal treatment. Nothing “cures” ADHD though.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Oct 28, 2013 at 8:31pm

Hi Ronnie,

I really feel for you.  When our 9 year old son started Kinder, it was a complete disaster and we spent the better part of that school year in total chaos becuase we had no idea what was going on with him, and unfortunately, I decided (with aboslutely no information but simply an emotional reaction) that it was NOT ADHD.  After lots of different types of evaluations (educational, medical, psychiatrist, psychologist, parenting counselor, etc) - he was finally diagnosed with ADHD and we started the process of treating him.  It is a combination of medicine, and other therapies, OT, etc.  And alot of research on Parenting becuase ADHD kids have special challenges.  What we found with our son is that treating his inability to focus was the easy part.  The most difficult challenge is dealing with all the other stuff.  It’s rare that kids with ADHD don’t have other challenges.  In our case, the challenges are with writing, physical coordination /sports, frustration tolerance, social skills, etc.  Those behaviors are not resolved with medicine…although medicine does help my son to focus so that those other issus can be addressed. If I had to do over again, I’m not sure I would do anything different becuase I did remove any doubt that my son absolutely has ADHD.  But, I wish I had done more reserach and had better Parenting skills from the start.  I’ve learned alot and my son is fine, but it was painful for everyone.  You are correct that it’s extremely costly (no matter what route you take).  We learned from experience, best to do as much research as possible on our own (saves money) and go into every meeting as informed as possible.  We also learned to trust our instincts…some of the stuff we were asked to try just did not work.  And keep in mind that about the time you think you’ve got a handle on things, things change.  Every few weeks/months my son changes and we have to revisit/tweak how we help him.  Overall, things have improved over the years…but we experience roadblocks now and again…the thing is to stay focused on the long term. ADHD is not cured, it’s managed.  Initially by Parent’s and eventually by your child.  I don’t have any specific advice for you, but am hoping that by sharing my story, you’ll get a sense of what to expect.  Good luck to you and your child!

Posted by Nica on Oct 28, 2013 at 9:38pm

If my son was add…then I wouldnt medicate. I’d be more involved. I’m involved now and my son is adhd. He’s 4 yrs old

Posted by vabronxboogie on Oct 30, 2013 at 7:51pm

You can help treat ADHD with therapy. You need to find someone who specializes in ADHD, specifically a psychologist or counselor. A counselor can not prescribe meds but you can find one that is trained to work with ADHD. Counselors are a lot cheaper if you want therapy for your child (I should know they are cheaper because I am a counselor, unemployed but yet I know about this part at least!). Your child may or may not need medicine. Right now he is so young that you should get him evaluated. My son also has ADHD and he is not taking medicine at this time.

I took assessments to his teacher from the psychologist and she completed them. Then the psychologist assessed my son for a few weeks. Then he was diagnosed. The psychologist did not have to go to the school.

Posted by ADHDParentingBlog on Nov 13, 2013 at 9:05pm

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