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ADHD in Girls

New and wondering about others experiences :)

I am new to this group…here is my story:

I am a mother of two little girls, one is 6 years old, the other is 3 years old. My first daughter, Savannah, was diagnosed with ADHD in February of 2014, however, I have known there was something “different” about her since she was 10 months old. She didn’t laugh much and was very “busy”. She never played with the same toy for more than a few seconds and was always onto something else or getting frustrated if she couldn’t be doing something else. As she aged, I noticed more and more that she was different from those of the same age. Despite my hours spent trying to teach her letters, numbers and colors, she was not picking it up. However, my younger daughter picked these things up without my even having to sit down and teach her. Savannah also has a VERY sensitive gag reflex and will gag or even vomit if she finds something gross. When Savannah went to her preschool testing, she failed due to not being able to focus on the questions, even though she knew the answers. She then entered special education. When she was 5 years old she began eating inedible things, such as, paint, ceiling, shoes, etc. I took her to her doctor where she was diagnosed with PICA, gross and fine motor delay (she is very clumsy) and low muscle tone. The doctor also mentioned he thought she had ADHD, but couldn’t diangose this until we had problems in school. Then starts kindergarten…. Savannah has to have an adult sitting with her at all times in order to stay on task, she is the last child in the building because she spins in circles and lolly gags. She is starting to fall behind… We were trying fish oil and caffeine to control her symptoms, however, the school was not noticing anything and so we decided to start medications (very scary for me). We will be starting on Metadate CD 10 mg tomorrow.

Savannah is a very sweet girl. She is very sensitive to other’s feelings and loves being with and talking to others. She is very social and wants to be everyone’s friend. She is also very creative and I love the way she thinks outside the box (sometimes way outside the box)!

I am just wondering if there is anyone that has had a similiar story to mine, if anyone has had good luck with the medication we are starting on and if anyone has found luck with non-medication treatments. Also, any advice on how you parent a child with ADHD is appreciated smile  I am always looking for different ways to teach her skills/right from wrong/etc without making it more difficult for her or I smile


Hi Brandy-Savy’sMom!

Your story could be mine. The only difference is that my son was a very still and quiet child until the age of three, then he very abruptly wasn’t.

Medication makes an enormous difference for my son, now 11. He was diagnosed at 6. Found to have additional learning disabilities at 8. Every day is a struggle for him, he’s EXTREMELY hyperactive, but medication takes the extreme out of it.

It’s a process to learn how to parent a child with ADHD. ADHD presents differently in every single individual that has it, so it takes time to get to know your child’s strengths and weaknesses and what strategies will work well for them.

There are many great articles on parenting a child with ADHD on In fact, there’s an entire section on parenting I think you will find very useful: As well, they have some great webinars with experts in the field of ADHD. There are many in the archives there now that can help you find your footing in light of this new diagnosis.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Feb 27, 2014 at 6:55pm

I don’t have much expert advice, but I wanted to encourage you to hang in there.  My 8-year-old daughter was just diagnosed after consistently struggling with behavior and academic issues since she entered preschool.

Her older brother has autism, but for some reason it seemed emotionally more difficult for me to watch her struggle.  Even before her official diagnosis the extra services she got at school helped so much.  She did start medication about a month ago, and so far that’s helping a lot too.  I wish I would have started that sooner.

I also have ADHD, but wasn’t diagnosed until age 35.  At first I thought I wished I would have been diagnosed just so we would have known why I struggled where I did, but now I also feel that medication would have been appropriate too.  If that helps.

Good luck!

Posted by LucyBic on Feb 28, 2014 at 6:29am

That does help!! Thank you!! It has been such a struggle for me to put her on meds. I had really not wanted to do it, but I feel like I have to let go of my fears in order to let her meet her full potential. She is such a smart little girl, but she is falling behind because she can’t stay on task.

I too believe myself to have ADD. I have not been diagnosed, but after learning more about my daughter’s diagnosis and the fact that it is hereditary, and many people in my family have it, I have come to realize that I am a sufferer as well smile  When I was a kid teachers always said “Brandy is a good student, but she has a hard time staying on task.”  To this day I have certain coping mechanisms I have come up with to keep my mind on a task, such as, doodling, twittling my fingers in a certain way, making thousands of to-do lists, etc. However, I really sometimes thank God that I do have it. I am much more creative than my sister who does not have it and I can multi-task like a champion! lol

Posted by Brandy-Savy'sMom on Feb 28, 2014 at 9:35pm

My daughter started on Medadate CD 10 mg when she was 3 years old. It helped her so much. She was a extremely active child. She would do unsafe things all the time. Getting out of her cAr seat like 3-5 times when I am driving. Climbing on high furniture. Odds habits like licking walls,chairs, people. She would go to pediatrician every 3 months for check up on how she is growing bcuz on meds. And she is doing great. No problems. She is 7 now and she is on 20 mg of Medadate CD.

Posted by Dinogirl on Mar 04, 2014 at 8:43pm

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