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Just Diagnosed With ADHD (Children)

New diagnosis for 12 year old daughter.

My daughter was just diagnosed with Predominantly Inattentive Type. She is a gifted learner which explains why she has always been a great student and teachers thought us a little crazy when we asked for their participation in her diagnosis. To be perfectly honest no one saw what I saw, not her tutor, my husband, no one.

I admit it would have been difficult to see unless you spent as much time around her as I do. She is mature, socially at or above her age group, academically gifted, well liked by her peers but I could see the inattentive. Persistent lack of focus, poor organization & homework for hours. You know the story.

After all the testing, but before the final sit down, I discovered she was also cutting herself. I saw a text which gave me suspicions and when she confirmed my suspicions I was shocked!! I hid it well but on the inside I was reeling. I knew she had anxiety issues, add to that cutting and ADHD inattentive. I was relatively calm for a week then seemed to come unglued with concern for her future. The statistics are very scary!

Naturally she is now seeing a therapist. My husband and I feel like we are tip toeing on egg shells. We need to get some solid parenting advice especially with discipline. I want to help her in the best way that I can and I feel ill equipped especially due to the multiple issues! Any suggestions here would be most appreciated.

We started Focalin XR 10 mg 5 days ago. She described feeling depressed and got a few headaches. The dr and I are concerned about the depression, so we will discuss how to proceed tomorrow…



There’s a great personal story over on, “How Women can Conquer Depression,”, I think you may be able to relate to and get some tips from (it mentions self-harm as well).

Consider posting this on the Parents of ADHD group as well, it’s a larger, more active group and you’ll get many more responses there:

You are on the right path, it just takes time for treatment to work and for everyone to make the appropriate adjustments.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jan 21, 2014 at 7:36pm

Thanks for the advice Penny smile

Posted by Momo2 on Jan 22, 2014 at 5:36pm

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