Parents of ADHD Toddlers, Preschoolers
Newly Diagnosed, Behavior Chart Help?
My 4 yr old was recently diagnosed with ADHD and possibly ODD (waiting on the psych eval to confirm ODD). School is not much of a problem but we are having so many behavioral problems at home. We are on a wait list to begin behavioral therapy at a childrens specialized hospital around here, so until then I am trying to do what I can to get him on the right track. We have been doing star charts on and off for about 2 yrs and he still seems like he isn’t getting it. We have 2 daily routine lists, one morning routine, one nightly routine, that he must complete (without putting up a fight) in order to get stars. He also gets stars for extra good behavior. He also loses stars if he breaks one of the House Rules we have posted on the refrigerator. He obviously LOVES getting stars and enjoys following the lists, but if he does something that warrants the removal of a star, he has a complete meltdown. For example, “put on jacket” is the last thing on his morning routine before we leave. I told him once he completed that task he would get a star. He refused to do it and then cried for 2 hours that i didnt give him a star. No matter how much I explain to him that good behavior gets you stars and bad behavior loses stars, he doesn’t seem to get it. Has anyone else had this problem with understanding consequences?? Am I going about this star chart wrong??
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