Just Diagnosed With ADHD (Adults)
Newly diagnosed and want to get on track
I’m a 31 year old female, recently separated (6 months), recently diagnosed with ADD, on antidepressant and adderall, trying to get on track and in control of my life.
A lot of things made sense when I found out that I have ADD. I’ve always been unorganized, couldn’t do things until the last minute, had self confidence issues because growing up I wasn’t a good student and there was a lot of pressure on me to do better, and I really needed to go away from home so I came to this country for my undergrad, completed my masters..and I did pretty well.
I got married 2 yrs ago. We were very different, our values were different, but i thought it would still work. My husband came from a traditional family. After marriage, his parents started interfering too much, they made it obvious that they don’t like me—they wanted a submissive, obedient daughter-in-law, which I am not and I didn’t want to be the way they wanted me to be. My husband was getting a lot of pressure from them, it seemed like he wanted to tame me. He started saying whatever he felt like to bring me down. I was going through highs and lows for some time. I had just switched my job from a slow paced environment to fast paced consulting company. I started having anxiety and getting extremely depressed, and confused.
My doctor then put me on antidepressants for some time. At work, it was taking me a really long time to do anything. I started working till take at home to finish my work because I wanted to do well. I felt like I was getting dumber by the day, I was feeling like I was losing control.. Things didnt change at home, my home was a mess, I would spend so much time cleaning but it would be messy in a few hours again. I was extremely frustrated with the way I was, and I felt like I could not do anything right. My psychiatrist added adderall which really helped me.
I did not want to lose myself so I decided to leave. I stayed with my family for sometime and recently rented my own place. My husband is trying really hard to get me to come back. I really care about him but I feel like its not a healthy relationship. I havent been able to decide if I wanna get divorced or stay married. I have been getting panic attacks and I’m joining an anxiety workshop next week.
I want to get better, and I’m taking baby steps. I’m trying to get organized—Checking bills is stressful, tracking my financials overwhelm me, I misplace my credit card too often, miss doctor’s appointments too often, I have problems managing time. I was googling how to get organized. I think I need help. Please let me know if have tips for me or if you know of any resources that would be a help
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