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Non AD/HD partners, this is worth a read

From another forum, this sticky may help you understand when an issue is due to AD/HD and when it is not. Unethical or abusive behavior is not acceptable no matter the reason and not limited solely to AD/HD.
Dear spouse or partner of ADHD.
http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=98803
And perhaps even more, this one, be prepared to wipe some tears.
“Love them”
http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=73780

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XOXOXOXOX you, Gadfly.

I read your explosive post early today, and did my own little Yes! dance.

So so so true: just because someone has ADHD doesn’t mean that the ADHD is the cause of their lack of character; manners; abusive personality; not wanting to do house chores; and a ton of other relationship stuff.

If anything, it sounds like many spouses here let ADHD be the sole reason for their problems, when it isn’t. Sometimes you just end up with someone who isn’t a good match who does things that irritate you, who turns out to have different priorities than you do.

Really. A jerk is a jerk is a jerk. ADHD is not an excuse for bad behavior (esp when you’re an adult—-presumably, as an adult, a person has some control over their adult relationships).

Okay, I’m off my soapbox.

Posted by JavaMonster on Jul 12, 2014 at 4:22am

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