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ADHD in Women

Not sure what more.....

I’m feeling extremely angry with how my life is turning out. I’m so tired of hearing be an adult. Your season will come, just believe in The Lord! Just focus on your work instead of the noises my coworkers make. Stop being an pussy and letting them get into your head. Lise weight! Why aren’t you on this dating site. Save money, and go out more often. You need to call your doctor so you can talk! So what you didn’t get promoted for the fifth time. When life gives you lemons, just make lemon juice out of it! God loves you and stop complaining! So what you aren’t getting any calls or email back, for jobs you applied for. Why is it, no matter what job or place you go you always have issues with people! Why didn’t you stick to graphic design? I’m so angry and nothing is working out for me. I even started taking meds and they don’t work! I wouldn’t hurt myself or anyone else but there are some days I want to go into a room and smash everything! I didn’t feel this much rage when I was younger but I’m 28 and I’ve had add since I was in 1st grade. I’m losing control everyday and I feel like such an disappointment to my family! I can’t seem to find my faith, find myself and I’m just angry all the time!  Really don’t know what to do! Any suggestions you all offer will be most welcomed!


Hi jjingram!

Feeling angry all the time could actually be a symptom of depression, especially when you feel like “nothing” is going right. Take this quiz and see if you should talk to your doctor about that added possibility: offers some great anger-management strategies for ADHDers as well:

I hope you find some tools to discover peace!

Penny ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jul 18, 2014 at 1:30pm

Hi! First I agree to ask your doc about depression.

Second, I’d ask your doc about your meds. I’m only newly diagnosed but my son was diagnosed a few years back. With him, some meds make him silly, others gloomy, and others downright nasty.  Maybe what you’re taking isn’t agreeing with you?  Is the dosage dialed in?

Finally, a big hug to you.  smile

Posted by Beaglemama on Jul 19, 2014 at 4:26am

Thank you both. I’m going to take the quize later today. Thank you again. I saw my therapist last night. Yet I’ll have to set up another appointment with the meds doctor!

Posted by Jjingram on Jul 19, 2014 at 12:52pm

Life, with or without ADD/ADHd, has its ups and downs.  With ADHD/ADD mixed in, things can, indeed, become challenging.

Second guessing yourself on everything is an exercise in frustration, so stop doing that.  Find an online career assessment to gain a better understanding of where your talents and skills can take you.

While it sounds like the biggest problem is work-related, if these same problems arise in social relationships, then it may not be just the ADD that is causing this. 

If you are not currently in therapy, you might want to consider it.  Whoever you work with in therapy, however, should be well trained and experienced in working with ADDers.

Finally, whether we like it or not, when others know about our ADD, they still do not understand that there are some things that just keep happening.  We do not choose to be this way.  With or without therapy, some of the problems are just there.  Sometimes medication can help; other times, not.

People, well-meaning or otherwise, often open their mouths before they should.  I have lived a lifetime with that.  I finally do a simple acknowledgement of what was said, then either make a note to look further info the matter or aspect, or I just blow it off.

Not everything that goes wrong is due to the ADD.  some of it may be due to a concurrent problem that was not apparent until circumstances made it evident.

Meds do not make ADD go away.  They do help the brain’s ability to process things by allowing us more time to focus on something before dismissing it as unnecessary or impossible.  It is a constant battle, but there are ways to help yourself or get others to help you find better ways to o things.

Sometimes using a coach does more to help than anything else.  Sometimes therapy does more.  It would really depend on where the problems arise and whether or not you already have the “tools” or “tactics” to use. 

Adults with ADD sometimes find that they have to change the way they do many things simply because they are now adults and there are no parents or teachers to provide the supports that were in place before.  that would especially be true in the work environment.

Keep us posted on how things are going.

Posted by Dianne in the Desert on Aug 07, 2014 at 8:43pm

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