Once Upon A Time We Were Valued
Once upon a time we lived in caves and had tribes.. large groups of people lived together and worked together to survive.
We hunted food and used our skills to fulfil the essentials we call the Triangle of life.. Food Shelter and Water.
The key here is that we worked together as a team.. no one had to do everything and we all had a job to do to ensure our tribes survival.
Us Adders were most valued as the huntsmen.. the ones that didn’t give up till we succeeded in catching our prey, we risked our lives and kept our tribes multiplying by sourcing the food, we used our skills and thought outside the box to outsmart and take down buffalo.. We “hyperfocused” till we succeeded in our role.
We also had no other responsibilities. The other tribesmen cooked, built shelters and organised the young. There was no confusion. We were happy in a raw undomesticated kind of way.
With evolution we have lost sight of who we were and somehow we now are expected to do it all, we live in small families rather than tribes and we work mostly alone to achieve it all.. With this comes the ADHD state of confusion and overwhelm.. We no longer just have one job and one or two roles to play, we are bombarded by the white picket fences and strive for what is now seen as a perfect life.
Just like you can domesticate a horse but you can never get rid of its instincts (fight or flight).. we too have been domesticated but our raw instincts remain. It is who we are.
So the next time you feel like beating yourselves up about your ADHD just remember where you came from and remember that we were once the most highly regarded members of our clans and tribes.
Our ADHD is a part of us it is not a disorder.. Domestication and evolution has just made it more difficult for us to operate under the “normal umbrella” in this upbeat crazy world.
Lower your expectations of yourself, live simply without all the “stuff” to clutter your brain and enjoy who you are.
You are highly valued
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