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ADHD in Girls

One2 1/2yr old daughter

My 12 1/2 yr old was recently diagnosed with adhd, she has been held back in school 2x.  I’m having a problem with her additude lately.  I am also having problems dealing with her adhd I could possibly have it also along with my other responsibilties taking care of a 2 1/2 yr old assisting with care of a mother battling cancer and aunt with multiple illnesses(diabetes, CHF obesity) how do I cope? Pulling hair out not literally though


What do you know about ADHD?  If your child had diabetes and you never learned not to let them eat cookies it would be bad for them, you’d be frustrated, upset worried, right?

Unfortunately, ADHD LOOKS like a character flaw - i.e. someone who knows how to behave but just won’t, pushes your buttons on purpose, doesn’t care about others, etc… Phrased like this ADHD symptoms DO look like a character flaw.  But when you really understand what is going on inside her brain then you will be less frustrated and you will be more able to find ways to help her manage her symptoms, and your own if you do indeed have ADHD.

To that end please go to YouTube, type in Dr. Russell Barkley and watch his Essential Ideas for Parents video.  It is a bit long but you can watch in chunks.  It is the fastest way to real understanding of the fact that your child has a brain that does not function properly, and that your frustration while understandable is not helpful to her or to your end of helping her behave better.

Have her watch with you too.  She’s old enough.  It might help her a lot by having her take control of understanding and managing her own symptoms.

Posted by YellaRyan on Jun 18, 2014 at 2:12am

Thank you so very much!!!!

Posted by triley1 on Jun 18, 2014 at 8:05am offers some emotional control tips for kids with ADHD that you might find useful for your daughter:

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jun 18, 2014 at 6:52pm

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