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Parents of ADHD Children

One parent on board, the other...?

My husband seems to not be completely convinced about my sons adhd. He’s been on a stimulant for almost 4 yrs (he’s almost 11). I know I let my son slide about certain things ( I hate to nitpick snd i choose by battles), my husband is less forgiving. I guess it’s not necessarily the bellyaching about a chore not being completed but the “tone” of the delivery to my son. How do I make my hubby aware that this is hurting my son and to be less abrasive?


Does your husband attend doctors appointments with you?  If not, maybe he should. It was far easier for my husband to dismiss what I was saying, because I’m mom and either I’m too soft or I’m nagging. We finally have a paediatrician, and I insisted he come with me to the parent appointments. After talking with her, his attitude had done a turn around. He is even willing to look at the possibility that he has ADHD and is contributing to the chaos.

Good luck.  It is hard when parents are divided, especially if the kids see it.

Posted by ButterflyGirls on Jan 18, 2014 at 8:50pm

Have him watch this video - it will totally change his life and his relationship with his son.  It is sad because what he is doing is having a negative impact on your son, and we know that people with ADHD are hypersensitive so what a normal child would feel as a result of your husband’s impatience will be tenfold for your son.

This Dr. Barkley’s Essential Ideas for Parents of children with ADHD

Posted by YellaRyan on Jan 19, 2014 at 6:50am

My husband believes wholeheartedly in my son’s ADHD and special needs, however, he is still very abrasive in his tone and frustrated with our son more often than not. I am constantly asking him to speak to our son in a kind tone at first when asking him to do something or correct something or even to STOP doing something. It’s a never-ending battle.

I had my husband come to one of my son’s therapy appointments a couple years ago but it was bad. The therapist started suggesting my husband is depressed because he has an auto-immune disorder that causes chronic pain. She really goofed up bringing him into the fold on treatment and therapy.

I’m pretty sure my husband has ADHD as well, although he’s never sought diagnosis.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jan 20, 2014 at 7:33pm

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