Couples With One ADHD Partner
Opposites attract... At first!
I am a 36 year old women who was diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago. I have struggled all my life with depression, eating disorders, learning disorder and everything else in between. Luckily for me… In between bouts of ‘lost-life-periods’, i have managed to build a career, find a husband and have a wonderful daughter.
If you believe in ‘opposites attract’, you will immediately know why my husband and I ended up together. He pretty much embodies everything ADHD does not. The problem is that what we once loved about each other, is now what dives us up the wall and is making us very unhappy and angery.
Before i knew i had ADHD, basically went between phases of almost OCD like routines to staying in bed depressed. Now i am on journey to find a happy medium, accept my limitations and embrace more creativity in my life. At the same time, i see my husbands disappointment in my moving away from believing I can be super women, like he thinks i am giving up on being something i now realize i am not. I feel like he is frustrated with me all the time. However, for my own sanity and happiness, i need to both manage and embrace my ADHD charcterisitcs, rather than FIX.
Has anyone managed to move through this stage in development? I would love to hear from some non-adhd partners.
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