Parents of ADHD Preteens
I think our marriage took a hit tonight. I told my husband about our visit with the psychiatrist and how tomorrow our 12year old will add Zoloft for anxiety to her daily Ritalin regimen. He responded: “That’s BS.” we went on, each defending our point of view and and refuting the other’s, and then he walked out of the room. Our girl seems to be looking forward to it, and to feeling better. She has been developing more and more fears the past few months, and as a result her world has been shrinking instead of growing. I’m certain that taking her to the doctor was the right thing to do, and I really trust this doctor. I believe it’s the right thing to do. But I think working this hard against resistance from my partner is shaking up my trust in him, and I also think that my pushing forward despite the resistance shakes up his trust in me. It’s not fair to our daughter to be the hinge here. She has enough to worry about. I’m not perfect, and I certainly make my share of mistakes, but she is not even comfortable showing her father her weaknesses or talking about her worries because he won’t acknowledge them. It protects him from ever having to know about it, but it leaves her without his support. That makes me very angry at him. I’ve heard of divorced parents having trouble moving forward in a child’s treatment because one parent won’t get on board. Here we are, a committed couple, and I wonder what will become of us, because I choose to betray my husband by refusing to betray our daughter. I don’t even think I have a question. I just needed to put that to words. Thx.
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