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ADHD in Boys

Please Help!

I have an eleven years old son who suffer from ADD. He is in 6th grade. He is immature for his age and addicted to computer games. I tried many classes and sports for him for the last few years but he does not show any interest or enthusiasm for any. I am noticing that he is doing his best to fit in with his school mate and really trying to be accepted by them. But he is keep loosing his friends. In a naive way to keep them, he is going out of his way to protect them and this putting him in trouble at times at school. Many of the kids don’t like to hang out with him after a few weeks. I feel he is becoming isolated and rejected all the time and this is so heart breaking for me. I enrolled him in couple of Social Group classes but no outcome. I am really desperate to find some resources and ways for him to get involve in other activities and find friends and not feeling rejected all the times. Please help


I have a 12 year-old with similar struggles. We found an Aspbergers/Autism group through the clinic in the nearby university. He has really found a place with the children because they are all working on the same skills. It meets once a week and it is group therapy so it is like a play date with children that have a hard time being flexible, are awkward and have a hard time reading social situations.
The are working on a curriculum called unstuck that works on flexibility and having a plan B.

Look at the resources in your community for Aspberger and Autism (high functioning) because many of the social skills problems are shared and they serve both groups of children.

Hang in there! You are not alone.

Posted by Amiery on May 15, 2014 at 6:21am

The best way for socially awkward kids to make friends is by participating in something that interests them. Maybe you have some programming or electronics classes for kids he can enroll in, since he’s so interested in video games (I live in a pretty small town, and we now have some of these classes.).

Keep looking for something he really enjoys and support him in that.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on May 15, 2014 at 4:31pm

Thanks for your comments and leads. I was actually trying to find something for interesting for him to do . But usually he has a good start and then going down to not being motivated at all. He doesn"t want to try harder.
I will check about high functioning asperger groups in area.
tks for your help

Posted by rozy on May 16, 2014 at 4:42am

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