ADHD in Women
Psychiatrist not willing to give a diagnosis - Is he right?
After researching and feeling sure for a year and a half that I have ADHD, I sought out a psychiatrist to try to be diagnosed, to improve my life, and my kids life. I have had a lifelong struggle with being disorganized, have never been able to be detail-oriented, have always felt broken or inadequate. I assumed one day I’d be grown up enough to understand the systems others make look easy to stay on top of household work and routines. Never happened.
After starting my own business in 2011, things became worse on the home front, as all my energy went to clients to meet deadlines and get work done for them, and my home organization and routines became even more chaotic. I have put off being diagnosed fro m the fear of learning that nothing is wrong, I’m just lazy or broken. Anyway, the psych basically said that he can’t definitely diagnose me because while much of it fits, the fact that I CAN hit deadlines (for clients, but everything slides for my own family) and I did well in college is an indicator that I’m more of an “anxiety-ridden procrastinator”. He said if I had ADHD, I would be incapable of meeting any deadlines.
This concluded the intake appt, and, I’ll see him again in a month to “explore further”. I left the appt feeling exactly what I feared, that I’m just lazy and broken, and that’s why I struggle. But can’t shake the feeling that he’s wrong. Should I seek out another psychiatrist, or is this the normal course of things? I’ve never been to a mental health professional before so
I don’t really know.
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