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Parents of ADHD Preteens

Puberty and ADHD Girl

My almost 10 year old with ADHD is very close to getting her period.  She is very immature for her age.  We have discussed puberty and body changes with her, but not sex. Family and friends suggest having the sex talk with her, but I fear (due to her immaturity) she won’t handle it well. She still tells potty jokes like a 6 year old. Any advice?


The book “How to Talk to Your Child About Sex” by Linda & Richard Eyre was a good guide for me on this topic. They are of the belief that it’s best for the child to hear the correct facts from a parent before they hear misinformation from a peer…gives them understanding and truth before confusion.

They advocate “the big talk” around age 8, actually, as well as preliminary, simpler talks before the, and more intricate talks as kids get older. Basically, ongoing age-appropriate communication about the topic throughout their childhood. To keep kids filled with accurate information, not just what they hear from other kids.

Of course, you are the best judge of your own child. You can tailor the level of any talk to your own needs.

Posted by Late2TheGame on Jul 22, 2014 at 4:38pm

I gave my daughter (does not have ADHD) the American Girl book about their bodies at about that age. It is a great book for explaining puberty and body changes in girls, but also addresses their feelings about the changes. The sex talk didn’t come until a couple years later. I know kids start talking about sex on the playground in 3rd of 4th grade, but that doesn’t mean my child was ready to talk about it.

If you see a counselor or therapist, ask their opinion too.

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jul 23, 2014 at 1:06pm

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