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Pulling the Trigger

Oh dear fellow ADHDers, I need you!

I am spinning in my own thoughts & I can’t find a way out. I want to pursue a new career but I can’t find a way to “pull the trigger”. I recognize that I am allowing fear of failure to run my brain but I can’t seem to find an answer around it.


My question is, how do I move forward? I could find a million reasons to not do something. Have you ever been in the same situation? If so, how did you “trick” your brain into moving around the fear?

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Hello,

Do you already have a field in mind? I started my own pet sitting business 15 years ago.  I did it part-time for 2 years before I had the courage to let go of my full-time job and throw myself into my business.

I can’t tell you how much fear I experienced before I let go of the security of my full-time job with benefits.

I have to say it helped immensely that I was head over heels in love with animals and pet sitting was a perfect fit. I had always wanted to be my own boss.

I was fortunate that I picked a field that was in it’s infancy back in 1999.  Today many many people are doing pet sitting and competition is tough.  I am looking around trying to find a new niche for a new business as I am burnt out.

I think it is important to know what your passsion is and to have an outline of what you would like to do. 

I am very grateful that I took a flying leap of faith and it has worked out well.

Good luck to you in following your passion.

Mitzi

Posted by Mitzi Maine on Mar 06, 2014 at 10:32pm

Thank you for the advice Mitzi!

I have often been asked what I am passionate about & I never have an answer. I don’t believe I am passionate about a certain issue or thing but I am passionate about figuring things out. I like to create solutions to a problem for others. Give them the tools to make the change & then let them handle it. This way I get a new problem to solve, since I cannot stand doing the same thing over and over again.

Posted by Lynniechinchin on Mar 07, 2014 at 12:25am

That is a great place to start! You know what you like to do and are drawn to helping people with problem solving. 

It sounds like a great consultant business.  Do you have any thoughts of starting your own business or have you seen jobs that would fit your needs?

Mitzi

Posted by Mitzi Maine on Mar 07, 2014 at 1:32am

Hi Lynnie!

That’s exactly the kind of thing that can be great to work on with a coach! I often tell my clients that their biggest obstacle is the one between their ears! Most of us know what it is that we want to do and what we need to do, and often we know how to do it as well. It’s changing the thinking piece that can be the biggest obstacle.

If that sounds like something that would be helpful in your situation, The ACO is probably the best place to look for a coach. The ACO, or ADHD Coaches Organization, is our professional association and it requires members to be appropriately trained in ADHD and ADD coaching. You can search their database (http://www.ADHDcoaches.org) for coaches by specialty. Most of us work with clients from all over the world, as we work over the phone, Internet, etc. Most coaches will also give you a complementary phone consultation so that you can make sure you are comfortable with their style, because that’s a really important part of the relationship.

Best of luck, and let us know how you make out when you do decide to jump! I have every faith that you’ll get there.

Lynne A. Edris, ACG
Life & ADD Coach
http://www.CoachingADDvantages.com

Posted by ADD_Coach_Lynne on Mar 07, 2014 at 3:56am

Hi Mitzi & Lynne,

I have thought of starting my own business only to be deterred by the thought of being without good health insurance & a stable income. I also worry that what I would start my business in (Professional Home Organizer) would lead me to eventually hating something I love. I see organizing a huge mess as stress relief & I don’t know if I want to make that my every day.

That being said, I believe that it is in part to my negative thinking (always finding the worst before the best) that I cannot make a choice.

Perhaps, Lynne (I can’t believe I found someone else who spells their name the same as me!), that is something a coach could help me with.

Posted by Lynniechinchin on Mar 10, 2014 at 5:21pm

Hi Lynnie,

The other thing to remember is that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing.  I did my business part-time for 2 years before I took the plunge full-time.  I had quite a clientele built up and I knew it was the right fit for me.  I did however go without health insurance which I don’t recommend.  That is a hard one.  I would never do that now at 50.  However when I started my business at 36 it was a different story.

I was also terrified to let go of my job, however my passion for animals was bigger than my fear of failure fortunately!

You could do it very part-time and just get your feet wet to see if you like it while still holding on to your job.  I find baby steps the way to go with making changes. 

Just a thought!

Mitzi

Posted by Mitzi Maine on Mar 11, 2014 at 10:05pm

Hi Lynnie,
I wanted to join in because I can relate to you completely. It’s like going to the beach or pool and rather than jumping in, we test the water with our toes. “Do I jump in? “But I’m scared”. Right?
I ask you the same thing I ask my self everyday. What do you love to do? or what activity makes you happy that you know could be part of a career movement for yourself?
Part of life is self exploration. I live with my wild, fearful, and all over the place brain 24/7 and it’s tough. I tell myself, “hey, what makes you happy?” Happiness is key!
I love makeup, photography, and the visual arts. So, I opened my own studio hoping to incorporate all 3. It’s crazy, I’m terrified, but I HAD to take a chance and see what “I am capable of”. Of course, my issue has always been sticking to 1 thing and seriously sticking to it. BUT, I didn’t want fear to stop me from figuring out not only what I want to do, but what my purpose in life truly is. Try something, it either works or doesn’t. There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Remember, you have a purpose in your life, and there’s a reason why you question yourself. Maybe you’re seeking your purpose?
Either way, best of luck, and know that every time you give it a try, you give yourself a chance to live, and learn about you smile
xo,
Alexander

Posted by apeuchot on Mar 13, 2014 at 3:18pm

Lynnie, I have a great career idea you should look into. I don’t want to get into the details of it on here, but if you want to chat, send me a private message and I’ll get you the particulars. It’s a career (not a job) that throws different things at you every single day. You will be interacting with people everyday helping them solve a problem, and working on solutions and strategies with them.

Posted by Yoder327 on Mar 14, 2014 at 10:21pm

Thank you to everyone who responded to this post!
Yoder- I messaged you smile

I am still spinning my wheels like a mad woman. I know there are a few areas that I could excel in, but for some I would need a doctoral degree & like many of you I am sure, the thought of going back to school is about as appealing as a liver sundae.

Otherwise, it would take that leap of faith to start my own business. It’s not that I don’t think I could do something amazing, but rather, the thought of having to market/sell myself is what holds me back.

Ah the many pitfalls of moving forward. There is always a reason to not move forward, at least in my head there is.

Posted by Lynniechinchin on Mar 31, 2014 at 11:22pm

I often tell my clients that the biggest obstacle to their success is the one between their ears!

Sounds like how you’re thinking about & looking at the possibilities may not be serving you well.

Lynne

Posted by ADD_Coach_Lynne on Apr 02, 2014 at 4:35am

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