ADHD at School
Referral, detention, repeat
My son - who is 10 and has ADHD - came home today with three referrals (one from yesterday and two from today). One of them was because he told another student their art work was disgusting. Rude, definitely yes. Referral worthy, meh. My husband told the teacher that lately the things our son is getting referrals for are pretty weak (nit picking on the smallest things) and that he’s being singled out. He brought up last week when our son came home and said a classmate told him he was ugly and stupid. When my husband asked the teacher if that kid would get a referral had she heard her say that to our son, the answer was no. She would go down on the behavior chart but it wouldn’t be a referral. To me it seems him getting his feelings hurt means less.
It’s definitely not the first instance either. A while ago another student dared him to do something and he did. (Pick your nose, put it in your potatoes and eat it. Total gross little boy thing.) My son was told he should be disappointed with himself and received 3 days detention. The other kid who came up with the idea, nothing. “Because he doesn’t have a history of being naughty.” Am I being overly sensitive, or does this seem wrong to anyone else? I feel like they think I don’t take his behavior issues seriously, because that couldn’t be further from the truth, but some of these things seems just down right silly.
Anyone else have their child get punished for every single thing they do at school? How do you handle? I feel like our concerns go on deaf ears. And I feel these things are taking the focus away from the bigger behavior issues. My son has mentioned that he feels he can’t do anything right and even when he tries to tell the truth no one believes him. Or when he goes above and beyond it goes unnoticed. All he’s good at is getting in trouble. How sad is that!
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