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Resources for impulsive speech?

I think I’ve asked for similar advice on this topic before.  But maybe my daughter will always battle this, so I’m bringing it up again!  She has SUCH a problem of speaking without thinking how it comes across.  Lately I’ve tried explaining the difference between saying something “rude” when there are plenty of other ways to say it “politely.”  I thought I could make it a game where we come up with better ways to express displeasure, disagreement, discomfort, etc.  I don’t mind buying books if you have one to suggest.  But I began on the internet, because it’s faster.  Here’s a link to one site I found, but do you know of anything better, or easier for a 9-yr-old?


Impulsive behaviour it typical of ADHD, and yes - blurting words out before thinking about them is a hallmark of this.

My son constantly does this - uses hurtful words to express what he’s thinking.  And I mean hurtful - especially to his siblings.

I don’t have any answers, but I do use Comptuer/TV references so that he’ll understand, like: “use your pause button buddy” or “if you replay that scene in your mind, how else could you have handled it”.

I’d be interested in hearing from other people on this topic too.

Posted by staypositive on Dec 24, 2013 at 2:18am


I think you are on the right track! The method you describe is exactly what I did with my son when he was 8 years old and hit someone every time he didn’t like what they did or said. He didn’t know any other way to show frustration. So, each time he inappropriately showed he was angry, we talked about appropriate ways to show that emotion and we asked him for ideas on that. It took about nine months, but he no longer hits someone when he doesn’t like what they did or said or is angry with them.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Dec 26, 2013 at 7:26pm

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