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ADHD in Boys

Should I be on medication?

I’m 16 years old. I was diagnosed with adhd when I was in 1st grade. My mom never put me on medication. I didn’t know I had adhd until I was in high school. I always knew there was something wrong with me. I could never make any friends. They always picked on me. My grades sucked. Now I’m in 11th grade. My grades have been up and down. I know I blew my chances at a 4 year. I’m just wondering is it my adhd. And would it have made a difference if I was on medication?


It could quite easily be ADHD at the root of all this. It would be a good idea to go to your family doctor with this question. (S)he may be able to help right away or make a referral.

Posted by John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach on May 18, 2014 at 4:03pm

After you go see a doctor about this, the next step would be going in to talk with your high school guidance counsellor.  Who knows, maybe you could turn this into a multi-faceted senior research project where you try to answer that question (would taking meds have helped me along the way?) and (what do the statistics show in population studies?) and (what personal experiences have some my classmates had—interviewing others?). 

On second thought, go talk to the HS guidance counselor right away and see what you can do now & through the summer so that you don’t start out your early adulthood feeling like you’ve already blown your chances at going to college.  All you really have is the present and the future (looking back with regret at what could have been can get you stuck in the past).  Carpe diem, maybe there’s a scholarship just waiting for you to claim it (one year after graduation).  And for many finding a good community college whose hours will transfer to many 4-year universities can be a great way to transition to college.

Posted by BC on May 18, 2014 at 7:01pm

Now that I’ve stumbled on some of your other posts, there seems to be a lot more to your story—please go see a doctor immediately for help with your depression.  Thoughts of harming yourself & thoughts of death are a big sign of clinical depression. 

You said your math grades are really upsetting to you right now and that you made good grades in Algebra 2 last semester but now you’re making an F—another BIG sign of depression.

You’ve said that your parents have dismissed your depression/anxiety and have told you not to use that as an excuse—not OK, depression & anxiety are very, very common in untreated ADHD.  The depression and anxiety are very REAL things which will significantly interfere with your life.  They are REAL reasons to seek treatment & do not let anyone tell you that the depression & anxiety are ONLY EXCUSES.  That is not true!

Posted by BC on May 19, 2014 at 10:12am

I agree with previous post, thanks for taking the time to advice this child!
I had the same situation as him, it is very important that he at least starts getting some sort of therapy!
God bless!

Posted by Alysha on Jun 16, 2014 at 12:11pm

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