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ADHD in Boys

Single Out! What to do?

My son is 11 years old and in the sixth grade.  Oh with ADHD since six years old. He had been picked on a lot.  Today another student lock him in a closet at school.  But the principle wants to talk to me because the hinges was broken off.  My son was trying to get out of the closet.  They are really picking on my son and not trying to find a solution on how to help him.  He has a IEP.  What to do?


So they didn’t address the situation with the kids locking him up in the closet? I swear my son is 4 and that is what scares me about schools. He’s suppose to get accommodated with the iep. Make sure they’re following it.

Posted by vabronxboogie on Dec 19, 2013 at 8:10am

If the teachers and administration of the school aren’t going to do anything, you need to go over their heads and report this to the Board of Education, the sooner the better. This behavior is unacceptable.

Posted by adavidson1982 on Dec 19, 2013 at 9:20am

Does he have trouble making friends?  I find my son has trouble making friends.  He is 9 going on 10.  I also find he is constantly at the center of trouble.  He is no angel but I just can’t believe it is always him.  I fear very much when he enters middle school.

Posted by CMR94 on Dec 19, 2013 at 11:50am

I’m horrified by this and so sorry that happened.  I just read your post to my husband and his response was “Oh that’s because he probably has a pattern of naughty behavior.”  He was of course being sarcastic because that’s the response we get when our son is obviously being singled out or picked on.  Definitely in this instance I would go above the teacher’s head - as far as you feel you need to go - because that isn’t acceptable…ever.

Posted by hockeymama on Dec 22, 2013 at 7:30am

Unacceptable! The squeaky wheel gets the oil, don’t stop til the school acts. I’ve found that they won’t do squat so YOU must act on behalf of your child!

Posted by Starla571 on Dec 30, 2013 at 9:57am

It’s so hard when the school only sees the reaction and not the action. That happens to my son all the time. And it’s scary “talking” to the school as they always seem to bring up old behaviors and use that as the reason why no matter what other kids have done, your son’s behavior is worse. You have to stand up to them, point out the unfairness of what they are doing, keep a log of all the times he gets in trouble and the “action ” the school takes,both bad and good. bring it to all meetings so when you feel like you are in a corner you can bring it out and give examples to them. I know an iep should give your son some understanding but we can’t use it as a crutch. and the teachers in my experience don’t care and seem to think that because of his ADHD it is his fault. I am so sorry that experience happend to your son no one should ever get pushed into a closet, my heart breaks for your son, and you. As a parent of a child who gets picked on you feel so helpless. But know that others are out there to help and understand.

Posted by one mom three kids on Jan 04, 2014 at 8:34pm

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