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Parents of ADHD Children
So frustrated with school
My son is ten and has ADHD. We had his parent teacher conference the other day and his teacher had him present for us. One of the things he presented was a paper where he rated his performance and his teacher rated his performance on different things - like following directions the first time, getting along with peers, etc.
When she gave him the paper, he looked down at the table and was very quiet. She pushed him to tell us about the paper, so he read us what it said. There were about 12 different things that he was rated on using a happy face, a neutral face and a sad face. On almost every category he was rated a sad face. But, his teacher was quick to tell us that he was improving. I don’t understand - if he is improving - it should show that he is trying and that to me would not be the sad face, but at least the neutral face. Most of these things were subjective things about his behavior which would also vary from day to day and also things that are greatly affected by his ADHD - like blurting out answers.
It was so hard to watch him have to present a paper that I could have easily read myself. When we left he commented that his teacher thinks he is a terrible person and since then he has acted depressed and is just not himself. It is breaking my heart.
He does not qualify for an IEP because he does well enough in school despite the focus issues. But, does have accommodations through section 504.
I feel that realistic expectations are a huge issue and that the accommodations are not being followed as well as I’d like - especially in regards to communication, since I was not made to be aware of these issues until PT conferences.
It is just frustrating how much we have to advocate for our children. ADHD is so prevalent why do teachers not understand it? I realize that my son is not the easy kid - come over and try to get him dressed and ready for school BEFORE he takes his medicine and you’ll see how hard it can be - but just because teaching him is more challenging doesn’t mean that you just put him in box and expect the same of him as all the other kids. - See more at: http://connect.additudemag.com/groups/topic/So_frustrated_with_school/#sthash.lR97GLNb.dpuf