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Son with ADHD

My son is 6 and he has ADHD and there are days he is a wonderful little boy, and than he has days that he is out of control wont listen the only way I could explain those days is he is like a wild animal and I dont know what to do. I have him on medication and it seems to work a half the time and the other half he looks all doped up and I dont want that for my little guy. My friends dont understand so we as a family dont get invited to much stuff. I was just wondering if anyone could give me any advise his actions are starting to rub off on my 3 year old. Right now my life is like a nightmare I love him so much I just wish I knew what I could do to help him.

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Hi, I have a 7 yr old Grandson I raise.  Your experience reminds me of last year before we have my Grandson on medication.  We didn’t go anywhere and when we did I went by myself and I left him with my husband.  It was too much to handle.  I felt like I was constantly telling him to stop and people were staring at me like I was a monster to tell my child to stop.  When I started him on his medication it was like a light turned on.  We still have days where he is wound up but we go to the trampoline or let him swim to his hearts content.  We have to get that energy out somehow.  We take things away as a form of punishment .  Sometimes it hurts us instead of him.  I would start a journal of his actions and what happened that day.  After a couple of weeks I would take it to your Doctor and talk about changing things.Maybe there are things you can do that our Doctor can recommend?

Posted by danandmonicat on Jul 11, 2014 at 1:49am

NAMI Utah and their family to family program is awesome for support and resources

Posted by Rasamabe on Jul 12, 2014 at 4:58am

Hi Shauntee!

If his medication isn’t ideal (he definitely should not seem “doped” at any time), then call the prescribing doctor, tell him/her what you are experiencing, and ask for a change in dosage, and/or a new medication (http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/741.html). Not every medication works for every child (http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/6581.html).

Structure and consistency are paramount for kids with ADHD (http://www.additudemag.com/slideshow/37/). Set a schedule and post it for your child to be able to reference any time. If there are things you can do in the same order and the same time every day, solidify that. For example, getting ready in the morning—begin at the same time every morning and do the same steps in the same order. Habits (good ones at least) are an ADHDer’s best friend. There’s a free download with sample routines here: http://www.additudemag.com/RCLP/sub/9143.html.

Discipline and punishment is tough with a child with ADHD. You don’t want to punish for things they can’t help, but you also can’t let them use ADHD as an excuse for bad behavior. This is an excellent article on finding the balance: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/1482.html. Reward systems typically work better than consequences for kids with ADHD.

Penny
ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jul 14, 2014 at 12:54pm

I can understand your frustration. disorder, my kids don’t get invited to alot of neighborhood, family gatherings. My experience with this is that they(family/neighbors) don’t understand. It is really sad to.see them excluded.  So, I find different things they enjoy doing and that’s what we do. Our psychiatrist recommended getting them, I.have 3 adhds, into a sport, I have found it too be very rewarding for them and myself. Our sport of choice is soccer. My kids have done several different seasons so far and have excelled in it.
I have an 8yr old adhd,o.d.d, mood disorder boy who is very much like this. He is my wild card. When I find an activity that he enjoys, such as soccer, or.basketball or even around the house those are my golden moments.

Posted by lyons30 on Jul 27, 2014 at 5:22am

Thank you everyone for all your input I am going to try each and everyone of these and hope that it will help me and my little guy in our everyday life. Thank you again. smile

Posted by shauntee on Sep 17, 2014 at 7:11pm

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