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Hi.  My 11 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD and an impulsive control disorder just before xmas.  He is on conserta 28g and I have been so patient trying to explain that stealing is wrong but I don’t feel im getting any where.  He has been stealing off us and he eventually tells us the truth and I will take off his ipad and phone etc but Im still in the same position the following week.  We have key locks on our doors but if we leave the door open for just a minute money goes missing.  Has anyone had this problem and what strageties worked for you?  Me and my husband are always disagreeing on how he should be punished.  At the moment, I try and talk and speak calmly to try and get him to understand that it is wrong.  When I finally feel im getting somewhere he does it again.  Any advise?  I have even upped his pocket money to a tenner from a fiver, to try and stop him from stealing but nothing seems to work.  Im at my wits end now.


Did you think about having a police office to talk to him?

Posted by sdelaine on Mar 23, 2014 at 12:05am

Instead of going right to punishment, have you asked him why he is doing it? I know that sounds silly especially because it is probably an impulse thing. But when you are calm and he is relaxed, ask him what is going on? What does he plan on doing with the money?

Maybe you can have someone else talk to him about it. Also try to reward him when you leave the door unlocked and he doesn’t take anything.

Posted by cmullen17 on Mar 23, 2014 at 2:49am

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