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Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults

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Hi, I’ve posted here a number of times about my son, now aged 21, who is ADD inattentive. His situation is especially difficult because we live overseas, and in order to live here legally, he must remain a student in good standing. Upon getting a postsecondary degree he’s eligible for citizenship—and I’m happy to report, this has now happened! He just received the equivalent of an associate’s degree, and has decided to pursue a bachelor’s next year. I made the decision some time ago to step back and let him take responsibility for his future—and that has worked. I won’t pretend it has been easy, it’s been a very bumpy ride and he still has a lot of issues with executive functioning and anger management—but as they say, expect progress, not perfection. Just wanted to share this with other parents wrestling with young-adult ADD/ADHD.

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That’s such great news!

***I highly encourage you to post this to ADDitude’s new discussion forums, as well. I think your question would get a lot of attention in the Teens & Young Adults forum:  https://www.additudemag.com/forums/forum/parenting-adhd-kids/teens-young-adults/. ADDconnect is transitioning over to this new forum now, and that’s where all the activity is.***

Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

Posted by adhdmomma on Jul 12, 2017 at 1:32pm

Thank you for posting this! I applaud you for having the courage to step back, especially when there was so much at stake.

Your message is inspiring—I have a 17 year old daughter who is ADHD inattentive. I know that I need to begin backing off, especially because she wants to be completely independent.

Thank you again!
Anastasia

Posted by ABritt on Jul 12, 2017 at 2:17pm

Backing off is so hard.

Posted by najn on Jul 13, 2017 at 4:15pm

Hi, everyone and thanks for your support! Penny, I’m confused about the new forum, when I followed the above link I came to a forum where nothing had been posted for several weeks ...

Posted by fortuna33 on Jul 18, 2017 at 2:30pm

@fortuna33,

The new forum is still building steam. If you look at the home page, you’ll see there are active users. https://www.additudemag.com/forums/

I think the folks over there would love to see your inspiring message too. wink

Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

Posted by adhdmomma on Jul 18, 2017 at 2:54pm

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