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Anxiety and ADHD

Stuck at 47 years.

My spouse, and I came to the conclusion that my behaviors of procrastinating, quitting jobs too easily, being too self-centered, and not changing routines (always eating same thing for breakfast, etc), equals to my being in teenage rut. I am having a hard time sleeping. i have had about 4 or 5 hours sleep since yesterday afternoon, including a 2 hour nap. Any helpful hints?

My dad died around February 16, 2014.

I am going to court to to testify about being disabled. It’s tough on our marriage. I had a seizure in mid March, 2014. It was likely stress related. We have been waiting to find out if I am in the Medicaid system

My mom’s over bearing, controlling, and does not acknowledge any of the above symptoms.


Too many things going on. I know that your spouse and you came to the conclusion that you are stuck in a teenage rut, but what part of you agrees with that?

I hope you all the best in your court day. I wish I had at least a court day or a way to show the world that I cannot put up with their demands.

My husband is asking me to find a new job with a better pay, but honestly, I wonder who will keep someone who forgets to show up at work from time to time. I don’t do it in purpose, and when it happens, I feel terrible, and I only learn about it when it is too late.

Are there any jobs where that is not an issue? Is there a legal resource for me? Perhaps not. All the world wants is for me to change as if I could.

Posted by najn on Apr 26, 2014 at 6:06pm

You are an adult. Your mother’s opinion doesn’t matter. It’s her problem that she refuses to accept your diagnosis.

As for a teenage rut, no. I suggest possibly educating your husband about this disease.

Sorry if I sound harsh. I wish you the best!

Posted by organizationschmorganization on Apr 26, 2014 at 7:30pm

Your not in a rut, you are feeling the affects of anxiety-stress from all the things going on in your life.
Take a minute, meditate, breath and work on first things first-what’s really important to you, go from there. 
  Your spouse doesn’t understand, then take them in when you go to your physician, to hear from someone else what we (all of us) go through (process things with ADHD, its just not the same as non ADHD folks).  Sorry about your mom our parents opinions mean a lot too their kids, good or bad.  Try to explain what ADHD is to her, explain how after testing, you have been diagnosed with this and give her time.  My spouse, children were accepting-thank God!  Understanding from those most important to us is needed. 
  Start there, reduce your stress levels kid!  Tell your physician immediately about not sleeping-it’ll make things worse (can I get a witness to this?)  Tell yourself your not a quitter, use your ADHD to help at work would help there (ADHD-CREATIVE)if not, explain to your boss this is a medical condition.  If that still doesn’t help, look for another job you feel a fit in and will pay the bills.  Just remember, ADHD can be a benefit, use the good things and learn to manage the things causing problems to you.  Most of all-good luck!

Posted by defpro on Apr 26, 2014 at 9:06pm

I was asking for advice, and you gave it. I will take the positives. I have been unemployed for 3 years, am waiting to see if I am in the medicaid system now. I have been working hard at getting things mentioned in my post 4/265/14.

My wife and self will keep being resourceful where my parents were not aware of the picture of adhd.

Thanks all 4 people who replied to my post.

Posted by addsquasher47 on Apr 27, 2014 at 9:20am

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