Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults
Teen Getting into Serious Trouble -- HELP!
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13 Year Old getting into serious trouble—-HELP!
Posted by AJGO to Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults on Oct 30, 2013 at 3:06pm
ETL, 13, boy, ADHD/ODD—Has meds (Intuniv/Vyvanse), has therapy, has psychiatrist, has IEP.
Is dealing pot behind our backs. Was caught using but we started testing and last 2 tests came back clean.
Dad whom he lives with 85% has severe ADD and is totally naive and lets him run fairly unchecked. I basically single-mommed it for the first 12 years as Dad was totally checked out but I was going under from the stress, so he went to live with Dad last year.
We live in same town, close by.
Have tried to get him engaged in sports—no go.
He needs and gets tons of outdoor time, but is clearly making poor choices about whom he hangs with and what he’s doing. Has hard time understanding consequences. (Dad has very few, so that reinforces issue), acts out, impulsive, foul mouth, doesn’t want to talk about issues
When he’s with me I set rules, boundaries, check his phone when he’s asleep, keep track of his stuff on social media. I have close contact with local police, who understand the situation but there is only so much protecting they can do.
He’s been suspended off bus and from school multiple times. I fear expulsion if he is found out
I’m at a complete loss as to where to turn for help. I fear he won’t make it through to adult-hood (much less HS next year) on this track. I go between utter despair and heart break over my beautiful boy, glimpses of whom I see here and there—and then feeling like I have to just walk away because I feel so helpless and I have his sib to raise, and myself to care for and we can’t all go under with him
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