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Just Diagnosed With ADHD (Adults)

This is a joke right? Can it really be ADD?

I was diagnosed last year with ADD, SAD and MDD. Apparently it’s all I have ever known. At first I thought the doc was joking, but 3 diff docs said the same thing. I’m 38 for crying out loud!  I have 3 daughters and now that I know it’s hereditary, so I’m looking extra carefully into my kids’ behavior. Some days I still don’t believe this is a real thing.


Oh, it’s a joke, all right: a very real, frustrating and heartbreaking joke.

I’m a dad and was diagnosed at 40, and I still sometimes wrestle with anger that it wasn’t caught sooner.  But mostly, I’m relieved to have finally found a name for my demon.

One way you’ll know it’s real is if the treatments begin to have an effect on your life.  My marriage is intact and I have a better relationship with my kids, for example. I’m still flailing in other areas, but I got the important ones on the right track.

Good luck!

Posted by ADDad on Mar 05, 2014 at 12:30am

Thank you! I’ll be 39 this year and I would have liked to have known this when I was younger, but I come from an old fashioned family who would likely think that this isn’t real. My initial reaction to all this speaks to that. The medication I have been on helps with ADHD as well. I’m learning so many different ways to deal with it from day to day. I’m also keeping an eye on my 13 year old, who’s behavior is the mirror-image of when I was 13. At least now I can help her develop some habits that work with her and not against her.
I refuse to have her go through what I went through and thought was normal for so long. It is a relief to put a name to it.

Posted by Cailin on Mar 28, 2014 at 6:36am

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