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ADHD in Women

Took my meds... still cant focus

I am 20 years old and a Student in college. I take my medicine every morning, but the past few days have been so hard to just stay focused. (probably why i am posting on here and not paying attention to my class). I have not been able to go to my therapy the past few weeks and I feel like I am starting to lose it. I have a boyfriend that asks me to do things that are all mentally challenging and just adds something else for me to “think” about.
I don’t know if anyone else has experienced this. This is my first time going on here and posting, but I think it might be nice to talk to someone else who has ADHD.


jsheriif—Thank-you for posting!  Because you posted while still so young, you’re not going to spend years figuring out what to do.  I’ll make this VERY short—supportive therapy is essential; unsupportive boyfriends are not.  You are NOT being selfish when you take care of yourself!—Sherry BK

Posted by Sherry BK on Mar 14, 2014 at 1:08am

Hi jsheriff. I am 42 but only recently realised I have adhd. I found it hard to cope with the demands of family life and used to say to my husband “life is just too complicated” and he would say “no it’s not”. Now I realise it’s because of how my mind works. Does your boyfriend know about your ADHD and how it affects you? Would he be willing to chat about it and how things could be made easier? I find it helpful to write a list when I have to discuss issues with someone, to help me keep on track. I can get distracted, especially when feeling emotional. It sounds like the therapy is very important for you and needs to be a priority. Are you abel to give yourself a day to yourself to have some headspace and a rest? I find this helpful, just to have a quiet day when I can and not even answer the phone if possible. Perhaps you could get some support in college, such as extra time to complete assignments? Good luck.x

Posted by Janeybee on Mar 16, 2014 at 11:14pm

I have several coworkers (I swear, the field attracts people with ADD / ADHD) that also have ADD / ADHD and, when I compare how I feel after taking my medication to how they feel, my dose isn’t working as well as theirs is. In theory, I should probably ask for a higher dose but I don’t want to.That said, I do a good deal of behavioral redirection combined with medication for focus. Here’s what has worked for me.

Go for a walk or jog every day. Whether it’s just pacing while you read a textbook or going out for a hike alone, make sure you’re physically moving for at least an hour… preferably before you have to focus on something.

Download something to prevent distraction while on your laptop. I use Iamstudying ( It blocks whichever websites I ask it to when I’m studying.

Get a ball chair for when you’re studying alone and a seating disc for classes ( that way you can fidget and blow energy without distracting yourself. Also, try studying while standing, if possible.

Stretch often. There are tons of pages for in-seat stretching if you google it.

Meditation is great once you figure it out. I just take slow deep breaths while chanting and imagining numbers.

Keep a journal. I have two, one online and one physical. The online one is completely private and it’s just a place for me to rant when I find myself completely unable to focus. I set a timer, type until I’m done ranting or until the timer goes off. The physical one is for stray nagging thoughts that are bothering me and won’t go away, writing helps.

Consider using the Pomodoro technique for when you’re studying.

I have combined, Inattentive and hyperactive, and if I’m allowed to fidget, I can focus. Some days when I’m horribly scattered I keep a jump rope near me so I can use the pomodoro technique and jump rope on my breaks.

Posted by Joules on Apr 30, 2014 at 12:15am

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