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Couples With One ADHD Partner
Twenty years of marriage with a husband with ADHD
I just want to introduce myself. I am a mother of two, an 8 year old daughter and a 13 year old son with ADHD and my husband also has ADHD.
I read through the posts here and just wanted to say “Hey” we are all going through the same thing. I’ve read that some people say their ADHD spouse is mean at times. So is mine and he does not mean to be - I have to stop and tell him “hey you don’t have to talk to me in that tone, I’m just asking a question”
As our children get older and especially our son needs extra attention and assistance staying on task and on a schedule after school and such we have come to the conclusion that even though my husband gets home two hours before me he can’t help my son stay on that schedule - even if he has a list. He can barley keep a schedule for himself.
I am the family manager. I currently work full time as does my husband but I do everything for our household, shop , make appts, take kids to appts, clean, cook, etc. I am also here to say it is exhausting. I do get burnt out and we sit and talk and try nee things to get everyone to help out. It lasts for a little while - usually just enough time for me to reset myself and start all over.