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Parents of ADHD Children

Vacation with friends

my son was invited to go on a weeklong beach house vacation with a friend, he’s 11. I am torn about letting him go. He takes a vyvanse in the am and intuniv at night. I’m concerned that he may miss doses. The intuniv I’m not as concerned about but vyvanse if he misses it he is super impulsive and silly to the point of obnoxious behavior. There will be his friends family and another family there. My sons friend is ADHD but takes the summer off meds. The friends family also has no filters when it comes to movies, video games, etc. anything goes. My husband is concerned they will get their hands on the internet and see things they shouldn’t. This is my sons one of two “outside of school” friends, I don’t want to separate them but I am leery.


Let him go.  It has the potential to be really good for all of you.  It will give him practice using his skills (kids are usually better behaved with other adults).  Can you ask the parents to have discretion around internet stuff?  I would support his friendships in whatever ways you can.  When my son used to stay at friends, I asked the parents to give him his vyvanse with breakfast.

Good luck.  There’s probably no wrong choice here.  But my inclination is to try it!  My son, age 15 is in the dominican republic with a group doing volunteer work.  these excursions away from home can be so good for all.

Posted by Ilana on Jul 11, 2014 at 4:03am

Does the other family know your son takes meds? If they do, I am sure your son has been around this family before, right. So, they have probably seen him in a variety of circumstances (i.e. on and off meds). I’d say that if they are willing to take him and they know about the meds, they definitely let him go. They can always call if they run into problems.

Hope this is helpful.
Sue H in PC, Ohio

Posted by SueH on Jul 11, 2014 at 11:24am

Be happy your son has friends and has been invited to go.
Talk to the parents about your concerns.
If by chance he misses his meds, at least he is at a place where he can run around making noise and wearing himself out.

Posted by use2be on Jul 11, 2014 at 3:39pm

I agree…it’s awesome your son has friends.  My son is 12 and has ADHD, horrible people skills and not one friend. Let him take this responsibility on and plus, I am sure you deserve a break!

Posted by Android on Jul 11, 2014 at 7:50pm

Yes, he would love it. They do know he has ADHD and his friend has it too! I guess I’m more concerned about different parenting styles and all the people that will be there. That mixed with possibly missing meds has me worried. Thanks for all your input, I will talk with them.

Posted by Starla571 on Jul 12, 2014 at 3:31am

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