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Wanting to quit my job.. Again

I’m almost 40years old and have had so many jobs. The longest I was able to keep before moving on was 3 years and I’ve realized working part time works much better for me than full time. I have ADD as well as my kids and most days I have no idea how I made it through the day. I currently have a good job working for the State, work full time and hate it. I’ve been here a year and it seems like once I’ve had a job for about a year I tend to start feeling this way. I wish I could find something to do from home instead…anyone else go through or feel like this?
I’ve been on Adderall for years & just recently starting on Estrogen for Perimenopause.
Thanks for any input:)


I completely understand.  I am the same way.  I’ve found the secret for myself is to get jobs where I can move to other positions or that the job is always changing.  I LOVED working retail, because I worked in different areas every week.  If I got bored with one position, I could change what I did - but the pay, not so great.  Now I am a Receptionist and I can take on odd jobs from others.  I find there are times when I’d rather jump from a moving train than come in, but I make sure and take on less work or something fun as a reward. Sounds dorky, but Reception work keeps me entertained by meeting new people frequently.

Posted by AliasJonesGal on Apr 03, 2014 at 11:24pm

I was the same way, most of my life, I would work someplace for a year or so (I was a pressman in printing shops) and then I would get to where I hated it. About ten years ago my health started going south, so I started my own business raising cattle. It was hard in the beginning, but I have loved it ever since.I hope I never have to work a real job ever again.

Posted by Rancher John on Apr 04, 2014 at 1:06am

Rancher John points the way. Metaphorically at least. You may not want to raise cattle but you must honour who you are and work the way that makes you happy to bounce out of bed in the morning.

Posted by John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach on Apr 04, 2014 at 2:50am

Thank you so much for your input! I think I’ve known this for quite some time just not knowing what direction to go in and always falling back on what everyone else ‘expects’ or is ‘the norm’.

Posted by dparamo12 on Apr 04, 2014 at 7:00am

Wow ! I absolutely relate to that ! I’m 41yrs old and I have never been able to stick with a job either ! But over the last 6 years at this job with the same company I learned that I simply can’t do the same thing everyday for a long period of time , I get bored, restless, unhappy, start dreading to go start calling off , or simply just don’t show up , now that was when I was younger so I would get jobs where I could make my own schedule , or work when I want or needed to work , I was in the nursing field and worked with agencies , I also got involved in construction , with that I couldn’t make my own schedule but I don’t get bored because we always doing something different every day which is ideal for me ,

Posted by Connieg72 on Apr 04, 2014 at 8:26am

I understand your feelings.  We ADDer’s get bored doing the same thing over & over.

First of all, make a list of all your pluses.  There are some that come with ADD- like creativity, thinking out of the box, great problem solving, brainstorming etc.

Also think about your interests.  Just things you like to do that might be turned into part time jobs.  Are you good at computers?  Maybe you could tutor senior citizens on how to use computers.

But most of all brainstorm what jobs that involve you doing different things all the time, outside sales is one I can think of.

Another thought- I remember a number of years back there were opportunities to job share.  You could investigate the chance that your current job could be shared.  At least it’s a means of keeping half of your current income until the time you can find part time jobs that suit you more.

I just read an article in the May 2014 issue of Redbook about a woman who has 8 part time jobs-some of them at home.  She said income wise-she makes as much as she did in her prior full time job.  If you work at home you might not have to work 9-5 hours. As long as you get the job done.

I think it might be really helpful to read the article.  If you can’t afford it your local library might have it or if you want you can private msg me & I’ll try & email it to you.  I’m not very techy.  So be patient with me.

I’m not suggesting you get 8 jobs but it might show you how you can create part time jobs that fit your ADD needs so that you won’t be in this position in a few years because you will like what you are doing.

I don’t know where you are on the issue of God.  I would suggest you pray & ask Him to guide your job search.  I think He is the reason I was able to succeed in my life with ADD even though I wasn’t diagnosed until my 50’s,

Hope this helps.

Posted by inahurry on Apr 06, 2014 at 2:23am

I work part-time from home doing customer service as and am a contractor for the company I provide service for.  I like my job while I’m doing it but have a hard time with boredom when I think of my job after hours.  I love doing it, though.  It’s really fun!  I’ve been doing it for 5 years now.  When I get really antsy about it, I remind myself that this job was hard to find.  I’ve just passed the 5-year mark.  I do have a hard time with tardiness though - even though my little office is in a corner of my living room!  So I guess I’m trying to say that in some ways, working from home can be nearly as difficult as working with others, just in different ways. 

I get stuck in thinking that this is not what I planned for my life!!  I want/wanted to major in some sort of engineering or in a science field like astronomy.

Best of luck to you!

Posted by Missed That on Apr 06, 2014 at 4:34am

Sounds oh so familiar.  My husband would get so frustrated with me, accuse me of not want work, insist that I had this cycle where every couple years.  I would get so defensive because I really did love my work.  But somehow I can see where I have had this pattern where after about 6 mos to a year I would start watching the newspapers and job sites. Looking back I realized there was some honesty in what my husband was saying.  Though I had a Psychiatrist suggest that I ADHD in my early 30, more than a decade ago, I had a really hard time accepting it because I fall into what Dr Amen describes as over-focused.  I thought the dude was a quack.  How do you get through higher education and two children with no medication.  But when I read Sari Solden book a couple of things really slapped me in the faced—My work pattern was one.  I could not deny it one bit.

This last time I hung in their on my job search.  Was much pickier in my selection.  I have a really good job.  Like you I work for govt.  I have come to realize where my strengths and where my challenges are.  I too do better part - time at about 3/4.  Just enough stress to keep the creative juices stimulated, but not kick in the cortisol.
I realize that the mundane, routine, repetitive tasks take me way too long and they kick in my ADHD bad.  So I am constantly looking for knew ways to be more efficient and get the boring stuff done first so I have something to look forward to.  Learning to use positive self-talk, affirmations, and prayers are good ways to get us through and to help us reduce boredom and negativity.

Posted by CIGRACE on Apr 06, 2014 at 7:48am

You might want to consider contacting the Vocational and Rehabilitation Services office in your State.  They help individuals with disability get and keep jobs.  Doesn’t hurt to call and ask to see a counselor before you lose your job.  They can give you good information and assist on your options to include retraining and self-employment.

Posted by CIGRACE on Apr 06, 2014 at 7:55am

This is my life story! I am 32 and have had more than a dozen jobs in my adult life; college was awful. I usually juggled two part-time jobs in college, and quit them whenever I couldn’t focus or didn’t like them anymore. Since I graduated from college, I’ve had consistent full-time employment in my field, but every couple years or so I get the urge to quit. Thankfully, at one company they promoted me twice - once to a different state - which prevented me fleeing again. The hard part is that my husband has to deal with this. He works for a retail chain that is located in most cities, so it is easier for him to get a job in his field. My brother also has ADD and is the same way. He now has a manual labor job on a ranch, which is perfect for him. He received his diagnosis while working there, which helped him enormously after he was on meds. The key is finding a job that allows variety and interests you.

Posted by kjohnson on Apr 06, 2014 at 11:03pm

I am right there with all of you. I am 43 and since graduating high school I have worked in many different jobs for many different companies. My longest tenured position was the 12 years I spent in the Army. But what I loved about the Army was that I had the opportunity to work in different positions and do different things with each unit I was assigned. With each new position came excitement and motivation but as quickly as I felt excited I became bored. I would completely dedicate myself so much so that around the 12 month mark I would feel as if I had accomplished all that I could and ready to move on to the next position. Through all of it I did manage to become EMT certified in two different states, earned my bachelors in economics, and state license in health care insurance.

Posted by wesleyutwood on Apr 11, 2014 at 9:35am

OMG these posts I can really relate to ,,,! Finally after being diagnosed ADHD in my 50’s the light is on. Diagnosed 3 months ago.  Amen.
I’m an RN, working in my current job over 2.5 years looking every Sunday in the classifieds for something different.  Gee whiz it’s a relief to read, and relate to others.  I even went back to school online to get a different degree, health and human services BA, thought that would help.  Other nurses at work (home health) are unkind, judgmental, critical, (I do plenty of that myself) that is why I want to job hop. Is it really different anywhere else in a non nursing field. Been working in this field 30 years, gawd help me.
Thank you for reading this smile

Posted by Sustoc7869 on Apr 13, 2014 at 7:52pm

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